I implied neither a monopoly nor a lead. I actually was more in line with the last sentence of your first paragraph.
However, if you are insinuating a lead from the right, I would have to disagree. Personally, I think there is plenty to go around.
To quote someone you don't like very much, "words mean things". There is a reason the terms are considered derogatory. I don't like them, and I personally think anyone who uses them has (at the very least) a serious flaw in their outlook that needs to be looked at. If that insults you, I'm sorry, but that's how I see it.
I hear the call of "racism" way too often by people who think nothing of using terms like "coconut", "oreo", "cracker", and similar terms. Terms that do nothing but group people negatively based on one thing...skin color. I don't condone it, I never will, and I will speak up against it regardless of who says things like that. I am Anglo, my wife is Hispanic. If I ever heard anyone call her (or my kids) a term like that, that person would be in danger of injury. That's not a specific threat against you or anyone else, but it is what would happen.
Do you understand where I am coming from?