Bachelor Party-You Make the Call

[dougp]

BTW, the best man usually organizes the bachelor party. What goes on is his call, not the groom's.

The best man is normally the grooms best friend, or a close relative. They should be able to make the call or not the groom will be comfortable given the situation. If I was getting married and my best man got strippers, I'd leave because it makes me uncomfortable ... period.

SFIE, if they do opt for strippers, go ahead and tell him before hand so that he can make alternate plans for himself and the buddies that want to be with him for his last night of "freedom."

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Single guys really don't care if the groom spends an uncomfortable evening worrying about whether his new wife is going to find out about the strippers he knows she will be upset about and have a reason to at him for the rest of their married life about how he ed up her wedding day and how she can't really trust him after all. I can see it. Easy.

SW gets wins the Miss Cleo Award for today. This situation actually already came to pass this past Saturday, and I just wanted to get some outside opinions on it. The best man did in fact get some strippers (I'll state now that I had no prior knowledge) and the groom got angry and split. Which really sucked because he was my ride. When he stormed out a few of the guys went after him. I was completely confident they'd be able to get him back up there so I stuck around to give our idiot friends a piece of my mind telling them pretty much what some have already said here (i.e.-this party was supposed to be for him and instead his friends used him as an excuse for some T & A) while they used the excuses I mentioned earlier. Moments later the guys came back up and announced he had left. So I was stranded with no car and no one there who was sober enough to drive or particularly willing to leave. Me and the only other guy there with a girlfriend sat on a couch while our pals waved dollar bills at women who pretended to enjoy rubbing up against them. They were good strippers by Houston standards (ten fingers, ten toes, no C-section or bullet scars). The whole thing creeped me out and at one point I made a comment similar to Midget's, namely why spend a couple of hundred bucks for a chick to give you blue balls when you could probably spend the same money on an escort that would go all the way?

Anyways, I just wanted to get some more opinions because I wasn't sure if maybe the groom and I were overreacting or if our friends had just acted like assholes.

[dougp]

yeah don't take advice from women on how to run a bachelor party

if the groom says he doesn't want strippers -- then don't hire strippers

get him really drunk and then Take him to a strip club

Don't forget to take pictures - when he gets back from the honeymoon, email them to his shared address with his wife ... then prepare your couch!

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

and YOU had the groom be your ride?

what was he not going to drink either?

The gameplan was to drink ourselves silly and crash on the floor, our host had already made the offer. The groom was too drunk to drive when he walked out, which was why I was so confident they'd get him back to the apartment. However one of the guys that went after him was sober and offered him a ride home when he saw how pissed off the groom was, without realizing that they were leaving me high and dry.

[photoguy]

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

it's not like the groom-to-be is really interested i hooking up with a stripper (usually)

it's tradition

i say don't waste your money hiring those floozies to come by the residence (unless they are willing to do sick you guys are in to) -- go to the club and feed them some dollars and if someone doesn't like it they can stay at the bar

I think my friend is wishing he had a best man like you right about now. Although I don't think his fiance would like the idea of him hanging out with a guy named El Pimpo.

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

Make everyone swear to whatever it takes to get them to swear to that they won't talk about the bachelor party.

Then go get some strippers. I'm not talking private party, I'm saying go to a strip club. He's saying what he's saying because he's whipped by his woman who doesn't want him looking at another one.

Nut up and get the guy some boobs in his face, it's his last day without the ball and chain of marriage for crying out loud.

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And yes, I'm biased. I've been a best man twice in the last six months, and the other time I had to jump in when the best man wouldn't do strippers or a men's club because he (best man) was this uber Christian dude who thought it was wrong (even when the groom said he was down with strippers/men's club).

It's a right of passage, and if you don't come through on this as best man you don't deserve to be called one.

[SpursWoman]

Exactly!!!! I don't understand the hype. If I wanted to see naked guys...I'd buy some porn. If I wanted to hook up with some hot guy...I'd go to a club. Why would I want to share a guy giving lap dances to every chick in the room?

Especially when you watch them all night kissing and hanging all over the nastiest (and I mean disgusting-nasty, not good-nasty) women in the room because they have to pay for attention. Even if he weren't a sexual, gross.

[TheRage]

On top of that most of the guys invited to this thing are single, and they've been lobbying for the girls on the basis that these parties are really for the single guys that are getting left behind.

I don't know that I really agree with much of their logic. What do you think is the right call here: go by what the groom said, or get the strippers?

I am having a Bachelor Party Weekend for my shizzel!!!!! the closer i get to the bachelor weekend the less i care about strippers. i can have strippers, hookers, hoes if i want but all i really want is to get tore up from the floor up and be with my Boyz for one more weekend of being single. Since i cannot hook up, though, i would really like my homies to hook up and/or have a good time.
i would go to a strip club that night but not have strippers go over. it is a waste of money and too much of a temptation for your boy.

on a different subject..... Any of you all heard of that show Stag Party... when they give fantasy bachelor parties and see if the guy goes buckwild and looses control...

[PM5K]

yeah don't take advice from women on how to run a bachelor party

someone ran out of his own bachelor party in a hissy fit because there Were strippers there?

You couldn't be more right....

Was he crying when he ran out?

[Taco]

[Spursy]

strippers are wack, i am probably in the minority thinking that but i think going to strip clubs is re ed and a total waste of money.

You're not in the minority. I think strippers are gross. Giving my hard earned money to some strange likely disease infested nasty who's jiggling her used up goodies in my face is not my idea of a good time. I know a few guys who go to strip clubs on a regular basis. I don't get it.

[TheRage]

Thanx Taco.. i changed my mind... WHAT was i thinking... that gif makes me realize that i need to get laid that night!!!

[SpursWoman]

You couldn't be more right....

Right. Because the women were the only ones saying it's probably not a good idea if he says he doesn't want them there. And he didn't, but they did anyway. He did not have a good time and he left.

Yeah, y'all really know how to show someone a good time ... what a great ing send-off. But at least the rest of them had fun!


And...I wouldn't have wasted money on strippers, I'd have gotten hookers. Teasing is for pussies, so bite me.

[TheSanityAnnex]

your friend is gay. end of story.

[PM5K]

Right. Because the women were the only ones saying it's probably not a good idea if he says he doesn't want them there. And he didn't, but they did anyway. He did not have a good time and he left.

Yeah, y'all really know how to show someone a good time ... what a great ing send-off. But at least the rest of them had fun!


And ... I wouldn't have wasted money on strippers. I'd have gotten hookers. Teasing is for pussies, so bite me.

It's not about any of that, you just don't ask a woman how to run a batchelor party....

[PM5K]

your friend is gay. end of story.

If he ever has another bachelor party I say you take him to a screening of Broke Back Mountain....

[SpursWoman]

It's not about any of that, you just don't ask a woman how to run a batchelor party....

Why not? I have an excellent imagination, as long as it's not my intended. For that I'd probably arrange a bridge party or something.

[TDMVPDPOY]

have a bachelors party at mcdonalds, the good old times when ur a kid, happy meal, ice cream cake.....ronald mcdonald up ur ass.

[Gatita]

Get him what he wants. Period.

[TheLie]

donkey show

[Carie]

I haven't read any of the replies, but my gut feeling was that it was probably pretty hard for him to say that to y'all, knowing the he was going to receive. To me, that indicates that he's serious about it, for whatever the reason. IF it's his fiance, he's going to have to live with the backlash, not you. So for y'all to make a decision that could greatly affect him doesn't seem cool.

[SpursWoman]

I haven't read any of the replies, but my gut feeling was that it was probably pretty hard for him to say that to y'all, knowing the he was going to receive. To me, that indicates that he's serious about it, for whatever the reason. IF it's his fiance, he's going to have to live with the backlash, not you. So for y'all to make a decision that could greatly affect him doesn't seem cool.

You should read the replies ... they did end up getting the strippers.

[Carie]

You should read the replies ... they did end up getting the strippers.

Yeah, just saw that. Ah well.

[Nbadan]

What's not to like about strippers? The guy should have taken one for the team and at least pretended to have a good time. Instead he threw a hissy fit and ruined his own party. Someone should have hired one of those party buses to take you to different clubs so they could get the groom liquored up before taking him to see strippers, and no way should the groom had been driving after his own bachelor party.