Bachelor Party-You Make the Call

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Here's the facts of the situation. My friend's getting married on Saturday and his pals in charge of his bachelor party are leaning towards hiring strippers. Every time he's been asked the groom to be has said that he doesn't want any at his bachelor party, but the best man thinks that has more to do with his fiancee than his own wishes. She's pretty much the only girl he's ever been with so they'd like to give him at least of a glimpse of someone else before he takes the plunge. On top of that most of the guys invited to this thing are single, and they've been lobbying for the girls on the basis that these parties are really for the single guys that are getting left behind.

I don't know that I really agree with much of their logic. What do you think is the right call here: go by what the groom said, or get the strippers?

[angel_luv]

Go by what the groom said. It is his party.

[SpursWoman]

There might be other reasons he might not want strippers ... I know several guys that just aren't all that ga-ga over them. And no, they are not sexual.

It's supposed to be a night out for him, not his single buddies getting left behind. If he doesn't want them there, to have them would be pretty inconsiderate. When he's drunk and passes out, the rest of them can go hit a strip club.

And if it is because his fiance is controlling and insecure ... why would y'all want to make his life miserable by putting him in her wrath? I mean damn, he's already getting married to her....

[Melmart1]

Since WHEN is a bachelor party about the groom-to-be's single friends? I have never heard that in my life. What a crock of . Tell your buddies to stop being selfish- it's not about them. This is HIS night, and after it's over and he can't get a KP to go out with the guys, the single guys can still go out to see strippers and make it about them.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Well, the ladies are showing a united front. Any guys out there who want to weigh in?

[1Parker1]

I agree with SW, you don't know for sure if it's because of his fiance that he doesn't want strippers. Maybe he just wants to go out partying/clubing/drinking with all his guy friends one last time before he gets hitched.

I personally would not be interested in male strippers for MY bacherlette party. I'd rather go out clubbing/drinking with my girlfriends instead. I just don't see the hype behind strippers, personally. Maybe your male friend thinks like me also.

I'd go with what he wants, it is his party after all. And after you guys get him drunk and -faced and take him home...those single guys who want to go to a strip club still can

[SpursWoman]

Or do they just not have a good enough imagination to think up something more original than strippers?

[sa_butta]

I think you should ask yourself...
Would he (the groom) have fun anyways if you did get strippers?
or would he be dissapointed because that is not what he wanted?
You dont necessarily have to get strippers just because he is getting married. It is quite possible he just wants to have a good time w/o strippers. Maybe it is just not his thing.

[travis2]

It's for him, not for everyone else.

[leemajors]

strippers are wack, i am probably in the minority thinking that but i think going to strip clubs is re ed and a total waste of money.

[1Parker1]

Or do they just not have a good enough imagination to think up something more original than strippers?

That also.

[1Parker1]

strippers are wack, i am probably in the minority thinking that but i think going to strip clubs is re ed and a total waste of money.

(well male strippers that is...)

[Vizzini]

It is his party, he sets the stage for what takes place. If the rest of his single guy friends want to go and have strippers, let them go the night before, or the night after, they are after all single and "free" from having to "ask" for permission from their significant other, so they can go whenever they want. It is his night, not their night to use the dude getting married as an excuse to see some naked women. If they want to go to the strip club, let them go, but it won't be for the bachelor party and the bachelor won't be there.

[SpursWoman]

(well male strippers that is...)

I got taken to an all-male review on my 19th birthday and my friends got me a lap dance. It was all I could do to hold back the laughter ... it was horrible. I haven't been to one since and I'm totally not interested. I'd rather be out looking for someone I am allowed to touch than waste my time and money on that stupid . If I were single, of course.

[tlongII]

Get the strippers. The women in this thread are wack.

[midgetonadonkey]

Forget the strippers. Get some s.

[tlongII]

BTW, the best man usually organizes the bachelor party. What goes on is his call, not the groom's.

[SpursWoman]

Get the strippers. The women in this thread are wack.

If it ever comes down to that ... I wouldn't care if User had strippers at a party like that. Well, not had strippers, but you know what I mean. I'm not totally wack.

[angel_luv]

BTW, the best man usually organizes the bachelor party. What goes on is his call, not the groom's.

It is the best man's privilege to get to plan the bachelor party. As good friend ( as one would assume the best man is), his first priority should be making the night enjoyable for the groom.

[angel_luv]

If it ever comes down to that ... I wouldn't care if User had strippers at a party like that. Well, not had strippers, but you know what I mean. I'm not totally wack.

I am.

Sorry ( well actually no I'm not ) future honey.

[SpursWoman]

It is the best man's privilege to get to plan the bachelor party. As good friend ( as one would assume the best man is), his first priority should be making the night enjoyable for the groom.

Single guys really don't care if the groom spends an uncomfortable evening worrying about whether his new wife is going to find out about the strippers he knows she will be upset about and have a reason to at him for the rest of their married life about how he ed up her wedding day and how she can't really trust him after all. I can see it. Easy.

[tlongII]

It is the best man's privilege to get to plan the bachelor party. As good friend ( as one would assume the best man is), his first priority should be making the night enjoyable for the groom.

Oh, he will. Trust me, he will.

[tlongII]

Single guys really don't care if the groom spends an uncomfortable evening worrying about whether his new wife is going to find out about the strippers he knows she will be upset about and have a reason to at him for the rest of their married life about how he ed up her wedding day and how she can't really trust him after all. I can see it. Easy.

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

[PM5K]

Oh man, you guys are so ing lame that I can't even bear to read this tread for another seco

[1Parker1]

I got taken to an all-male review on my 19th birthday and my friends got me a lap dance. It was all I could do to hold back the laughter ... it was horrible. I haven't been to one since and I'm totally not interested. I'd rather be out looking for someone I am allowed to touch than waste my time and money on that stupid . If I were single, of course.

Exactly!!!! I don't understand the hype. If I wanted to see naked guys...I'd buy some porn. If I wanted to hook up with some hot guy...I'd go to a club. Why would I want to share a guy giving lap dances to every chick in the room?