I have a question for the twenty-somethings...

[td4mvp21]

maybe on your farm cowboy

You're a ing idiot.

[Leetonidas]

Take it from me 2Blonde. I'm gonna be 18 pretty soon and I'm a senior in high school. I can tell you that almost every girl or guy for that matter does so much that parents don't know about. Almost every kid by my age has smoked pot and gotten drunk, snuck out, had sex, and lies to their parent's faces every single day.

I'm guilty of all that crap but I stay out of trouble. I got arrested once for being in the wrong place at the wrong time and I told my mom about it and she didn't freak and it was cool.

Basically, your kid is going to do a lot of you'll never find out about. Whenever you catch them, it's probably a 1 of 10 thing. And I'm not saying your daughter is a dirty who gets high and drunk and ridden by the football team, I'm just saying as a teenager, I know how we are.

[2Blonde]

Take it from me 2Blonde. I'm gonna be 18 pretty soon and I'm a senior in high school. I can tell you that almost every girl or guy for that matter does so much that parents don't know about. Almost every kid by my age has smoked pot and gotten drunk, snuck out, had sex, and lies to their parent's faces every single day.

I'm guilty of all that crap but I stay out of trouble. I got arrested once for being in the wrong place at the wrong time and I told my mom about it and she didn't freak and it was cool.

Basically, your kid is going to do a lot of you'll never find out about. Whenever you catch them, it's probably a 1 of 10 thing. And I'm not saying your daughter is a dirty who gets high and drunk and ridden by the football team, I'm just saying as a teenager, I know how we are.

But what you don't get is that we've been there too and there is nothing you could do or think about doing that we didn't do or think about doing when we were teenagers. As for stuff you mentioned, getting drunk, high, having sex, going to parties... you have no idea what she has done or has told me about. Nor do you have any idea how much of it I already know about. You are still at the age where you think parents are clueless. There are a ton of things we know and don't bust our kids on because we know they need to make the mistakes themselves.

The reason I asked for insight ( not advice ) from the 20-somethings is that most of them are far enough removed from the antics of the teenage years to have gained some perspective but still be young enough to be relevant about the things that are in the world today. In my day we didn't have AIDS or designer drugs to deals with but we still got drunk, high, had sex, and went to parties.

[ShoogarBear]

I was a teenage girl once upon a time.

Man, if only I knew where you were back then.

[2Blonde]

Man, if only I knew where you were back then.

[ /swoon ]

[ShoogarBear]

[ /swoon ]

[angel_luv]

My mom and I had emotional issues big time when I was in junior high. My adolescence adjustment and her menopause were a bad mix.

Even so, I was never rebellious and mouthy.
Mom says I never threw fits- even as a toddler. Just not my personality, I guess.

The hardest time I had with my mom was actually just a few years ago. I was 22 and it was the first time I moved out on my own.
Since I was paying my own bills etc, it was super important to me to say my say, and figure out/ do things my own way.
I felt mom smothered me and maybe she did a little.

Now I have settled into a healthy balance in which I am smart enough to at least ask my mom's advice before making my own decision.
And my mom is very considerate- often won't even offer an opinion until I specifically ask for it.

It's still a learning process but rarely is there any true hostility anymore- a credit both to my mother and myself, I think.

[SpursWoman]

But what you don't get is that we've been there too and there is nothing you could do or think about doing that we didn't do or think about doing when we were teenagers.

Frankly, I'm a little shocked by this. I never even saw a penis, knew what a cigarette was, or even dreamed of consuming anything other than a Bayer baby asprin until I was 30.

You little tramp.

[ploto]

Almost every kid by my age has smoked pot and gotten drunk, snuck out, had sex, and lies to their parent's faces every single day.

I am sorry, but this is simply not true. Not EVERY teenager does those things and claiming they do does not make them acceptable. I never did any of those things as a teenager and I had friends who did not either.

[td4mvp21]

I'm 18, I still haven't gotten drunk or done drugs. I've drank and smoked cigs though, and lied to my parents' faces.

[td4mvp21]

you drank cigs?

gross

Yep!

[polandprzem]

The only 15 year old that aren't trying to slide one by their parents are riding the short bus with you Polandprzem.

I'd rather have contact with short bus then a short brain of yours

[travis2]

I feel your pain, 2Blonde...

[2Blonde]

Frankly, I'm a little shocked by this. I never even saw a penis, knew what a cigarette was, or even dreamed of consuming anything other than a Bayer baby asprin until I was 30.

You little tramp.

[CosmicCowboy]

I'd rather have contact with short bus then a short brain of yours

lmao

at least he didn't call me poopooface...

[polandprzem]

lmao

at least he didn't call me poopooface...

Who? Your 15 year old son or daughter?
Or you are 15 years old?

You see not everybody is lieing and it's not a normal thing. I do understand that most americans or modern style parents like to have kids make on them.

Good to know who I'm talking to.

[CosmicCowboy]

Who? Your 15 year old son or daughter?
Or you are 15 years old?

You see not everybody is lieing and it's not a normal thing. I do understand that most americans or modern style parents like to have kids make on them.

Good to know who I'm talking to.

If you are trying to get in a battle of wits/insults you are bringing a knife to a gunfight.

I think I'll take a pass...got more important things to do this morning.

[polandprzem]

Battle of an insults?

If I wanted to insult you I would do so. I'm just talking about facts.
Or you are so sensitive ?

I have no idea.

intead of conversation about the topic you preferd to laugh at the disabled persons. Well that's your inteligence you showing.
Nice showoff congrats

[katyon6th]

Battle of an insults?

If I wanted to insult you I would do so. I'm just talking about facts.
Or you are so sensitive ?

I have no idea.

intead of conversation about the topic you preferd to laugh at the disabled persons. Well that's your inteligence you showing.
Nice showoff congrats

I actually understood everything you just said. I think.

Bravo, poland.

[spursfan09]

I'm 22 years old. My mom was always on my back, but she would let me go out alot. But she was forever with the questions. Truth is I did things I wouldn't want her to know. They weren't over the top crazy, but just somethings I didn't feel comfortable sharing with her. I think bugging is the best way to get through to a kid, but also restrain from going to far to the point where they actually consider being other places like in the streets better than being at home all the time where they are constantly getting yelled at. I think my mom did a good job of being tough when she had to and leniant when she could.

[2Blonde]

I'm 22 years old. My mom was always on my back, but she would let me go out alot. But she was forever with the questions. Truth is I did things I wouldn't want her to know. They weren't over the top crazy, but just somethings I didn't feel comfortable sharing with her. I think bugging is the best way to get through to a kid, but also restrain from going to far to the point where they actually consider being other places like in the streets better than being at home all the time where they are constantly getting yelled at. I think my mom did a good job of being tough when she had to and leniant when she could.

Thanks, that's exactly the kind of thing I was looking for. You are very lucky to have a mom who cares enough to bug you.

[spursfan09]

Yup! I agree! My mom's great. I really do think its just about "bugging", but then also having the ability to trust. But I'm not a mom yet so I dunno.

[TDMVPDPOY]

sending them overseas or to grannies place doesnt solve the problem, trust me on this.

[Kyle Smith]

at 15 if a piercing is the worst thing she is doing, then consider yourself lucky.

*nods*

[Please_dont_ban_me]

Optimist - Hey, it's just her navel. That's not so bad.

Pessimist - If she hid that from you...what else might be hiding?