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at 15 if a piercing is the worst thing she is doing, then consider yourself lucky.
How old were you before you started treating your parents with respect? I'm talking about being honest with them, not going out and doing stupid things and then trying to hide it... that kind of thing.
My daughter is almost 16 and she's driving me nuts. She's not a bad kid but it seems like every-time I turn around right now something else comes out that she has been hiding from me. Today she fessed up about piercing her navel yesterday. She already had 3 sets of ear piercings and we let her get her ear cartilage pierced when she turned 13 in exchange for signing an agreement with us not to pierce anything else until she is 18. So it's not like I'm being uncool or anything. It just pisses me off that she shows so little respect for me by going out and doing something she promised not to. And this was after I dyed her hair for her yesterday with reddish-fuschia highlights around the face and in the underlayers.
I think I'll have a drink tonight.
at 15 if a piercing is the worst thing she is doing, then consider yourself lucky.
Well, it'd help if she wasn't so cute. Maybe you can get about 50 pounds on her?
My 12-going-on-15 year old daughter sucks in that (lack of) respect, too.
I wouldn't expect the worm to turn at 16. You're in the years, although, I don't have a daughter so I don't know what you do. Well I have a step daughter but I let the wife do the driving there. She's okay though, now 25. My son is 18 and has always been very mature for his age, so I'm lucky there. , he's more mature than me in some ways. It's kinda wierd....lol. Doesn't drink or smoke and I do both. I'll ask him if he wants a beer or a cigar....nope. Kids ed up I tell ya'....
^2Blonde, I'm in the same boat with my 14 year old daughter. She's not really a bad kid, makes good grades, plays volleyball.
But lately me and her mom keep finding instances where she just flat out lies to us, and then gets mad at us for giving her some kind of consequence.
I've just accepted at this point that my daughter will not like me very much for the next 5-6 years, but I'm sure as not backing down to a 14 year old. VERY frustrating!
I'm 23 now and I pierced my navel when I was 16, then at 18 I went and got a tattoo on my ankle and I got my tounge pierced.......then, right after graduation I went and got my nose pierced. At 19 I went and got a tattoo on the small of my back......since then I have taken out my nose and tounge after getting them both done twice.....So all I have left now are my 2 tattoos and my belly button....my belly button I probably won't take out till I get pregnant and I do plan on getting more tattoos......She is just rebelling like most girls her age do....I didn't tell my mom anything about what was going on in my life and she was active in it. We were on a need to know bases and thats how it was till I moved out.....Now we are super close and I don't know what I would do without her here. Hope it helps!!!
~Megan~
ummm... no offense... but sometimes parents can be so naive. not to get you all worried or anything... but she's probably doing much more behind your back than you know.
I think the goal is to put each thing off for as long as possible because as soon as they get one thing, they will find something new to want.
Me, I am not the cool parent, and I never will be.
I always showed them respect but it wasn't until I was 17 and had done alot of stuff to make them worry about me that I stopped lying, and started getting smarter about my actions.
I'd still do stuff they disapproved of, but within reason, and I wouldn't lie about it.
For instance they'd ask where I was and I said I was smokin blunts with my homies.
I don't come from a necessarily typical situation here, so I might be able to provide some perspective.
I am 22, and the youngest of three siblings. My parents were extremely strict with my oldest sister, who rebelled and ran away to a different state as soon as she could, got pregnant, and eventually settled down back into the family. They were kind of strict with my older brother, the middle child, but he still had a tendency to get himself into stupid situations and, therefore, required the strict hand more often.
My parents laid off of me extremely early. I ran around with my older brother a lot, but I never got caught up in the same kind of trouble he did. Gave me a car at 16, dropped the curfew at 17. By the time I was 18, my parents pretty much gave me complete freedom as long as I didn't get thrown in jail, get caught doing obviously stupid things, and kept them generally informed of my whereabouts.
Because of that, I've been able to respect my parents for a long, long time. It was a lot easier to treat them like adults when they were treating me the same way. To this day, I still have great relationships with both of them because while they were always there keeping an eye on me, they let me figure out how I was supposed to live life.
Granted, you can't do this with everybody. Some kids have more tendency for mischief, and I did my part by staying out of trouble (or, at least, not getting caught in what trouble I did get into. And kids WILL always get into some trouble). Therefore, you kind of get stuck playing the 'controlling parent' role sometimes, until the child finally realizes that all those rules and restrictions you set for them all had their best intentions in mind.
My 2 cents.
dex is correct. that's kinda how my parent were with me and im square as all .
2Blonde:
I'm 25 now and I'd LIKE to think that I'm pretty respectful of my mother. But when I was a teenager I can't remember a time my brother and I didn't lie to my parents about something. We both snuck out of the house in the middle of the night, got caught and got punished. We didn't do anything terribly bad, we didn't go out and drink or go get tattoos or anything of the such that my parents didn't already know about.
Like a lot of people here are saying, it's probably just a phase that most teenagers will go through. That's what scares me to death about eventually becoming a parent...you've got a lot of crazy to deal with!
Could be worse. Alvarez could have her phone number.
That sounds exactly like my situation!
Damn Meg, I was reading this and I'm like KEDA WTF, don't say this , makes you look really gay ... and then I saw you signed it.
She'll respect you once you quit giving her money.
keda has a pierced belly button...
I'm 15, turning 16 soon, and I think I give my parents a big deal of respect. My relationship with my parents is very close, sort of a like friendship, but they definitely know when to be my parents, and not my friends. I've only been close to my parents for the past 2 years, because I know the troubles the have to go through in order for me to succeed. With that said, props to all the parents for all they've gone through for their kids
Hate to agree! And a car & cell phone are not an automatic right of passage when they turn 16
Ditto.
I lied to my mom about stupid as a teenager -- skipping classes, hanging out with a few people she didn't like, etc. -- but my mom was always open enough about the big stuff (and her own mistakes/indescretions at that age) that I didn't really feel a need to rebel. I didn't drink, didn't smoke, didn't use drugs, didn't put myself in dangerous situations, and knew enough to be smart about sex.
To answer the inital question, however, I'd say that I've always respected my parents... but my mom would probably say that I never have. I think it's just one of those universal kid things.
High School girls are a whole different animal though! They're peers probably and most likely have more influence in their lives then anyone else at that point in time. But as long as you let her know right from wrong thats pretty much more then you can do. Because if you try to discipline it will only make them want to rebel even more then they already do.
lmao
I've always respected them and not done stupid . I'm 23.
Then again I come from a very strict Muslim household and upbringing.
tell her, educatioin first, and you can have ur freedom....
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