Question for women

[jman3000]

There is always going to be a situation where something out of the ordinary will work. Most of the time having a different sex BFF isn't a good thing. Too much jealously and there is always that "what if" surrounding a good differently sexed relationship. I'm calling it like I see it.

you are correct... if i had a girlfriend and her best friend was a dude... id be extremely su ious... and thats just not me being insecure ... that's human nature. only way it's gonna fly is if the dude is a super flamer.

at the same time i wouldnt have a best friend that is a girl just becuase id know how crazy it would drive the GF...in theory you can... but in practice, at least the majority of the time, it doesnt work.

[angel_luv]

I don't necessarily disagree that this is how it usually works out, but I don't think this is how it should work. In that situation, I think jealousy is the problem, and not the friendship.

I think it is natural for a boyfriend/ girlfriend to desire to be the focus of their SO's consideration/ attention.

When I hear of a guy who prefers a female friend's companionship over that of his girlfriend, it makes me wonder why he is dating the girlfriend.

[I. Hustle]

I'm not saying you shouldn't have friends, but to answer the I.Hustle question.

Would you have sex with your best friend?

I do on a regular basis

[Los Spurs]

I'm not gay but if I was we all know your narrow gay hating mentality would show its ugly head.

@ how you go posting after all my threads about this gay !

[BacktoBasics]

you are correct... if i had a girlfriend and her best friend was a dude... id be extremely su ious... and thats just not me being insecure ... that's human nature. only way it's gonna fly is if the dude is a super flamer.

at the same time i wouldnt have a best friend that is a girl just becuase id know how crazy it would drive the GF...in theory you can... but in practice, at least the majority of the time, it doesnt work.

Yup thats pretty much how it goes. I don't run around with a bunch of gals anymore than I'd expect my wife to hang out with dudes.

[jman3000]

your SO should be your best friend only if youre over the age of 30 or so... if not then it's creepy and sad.

[jman3000]

I think it is natural for a boyfriend/ girlfriend to desire to be the focus of their SO's consideration/ attention.

When I hear of a guy who prefers a female friend's companionship over that of his girlfriend, it makes me wonder why he is dating the girlfriend.

his friend isnt putting out... that's why.

[Slomo]

Never. My two best friends are like siblings.

Do you mind me asking are they female or male?

I'll say this from my experience all the best friends of opposite sex situation I've seen, they always ended because of some sort of sexual controversy. Men are not very good at separating "best friend" feelings and sexual attraction. When the best friend is a guy the sexual attraction is not present - hence no problems (in most cases anyway ).

Again not an expert, just speaking from personal observations. I have seen many of those situations unfold that way. I'm pretty sure I couldn't have a true "best friend" of the opposite sex - I have a few very good female friends, but that's not really the same.

[BacktoBasics]

@ how you go posting after all my threads about this gay !

You're the one that has a problem with gay people. Its ing pathetic how someone this day and age feels the need to go around hating a particular group of people for said reason. I'll continue to follow your posts because that narrow minded ed up head of yours needs constant reminding of what a backasswards ass you really are.

I hope a gay drunk drive kills you.

[Slomo]

I do on a regular basis

Hence proving my point.

[Los Spurs]

You're the one that has a problem with gay people. Its ing pathetic how someone this day and age feels the need to go around hating a particular group of people for said reason. I'll continue to follow your posts because that narrow minded ed up head of yours needs constant reminding of what a backasswards ass you really are.

I hope a gay drunk drive kills you.

[CuckingFunt]

I think it is natural for a boyfriend/ girlfriend to desire to be the focus of their SO's consideration/ attention.

When I hear of a guy who prefers a female friend's companionship over that of his girlfriend, it makes me wonder why he is dating the girlfriend.

I'm certainly not advocating a situation in which someone prefers the company of their friends to the company of their partner. But I do think it's important to have a life outside of your relationship. When I'm in a relationship, I do everything I can to share my life and my past experiences with that person, and would hope that they would do the same, but that sharing is never going to equal the bond between those people that actually experienced those parts of my life with me.

[Slydragon]

Sly,
As far as your daughter is concerned, you might want to consider asking a teenage girl (niece, daughter of a friend, babysitter, etc...) to spend some time with your daughter as a mentor/friend. Teenage girls love to fix hair. When I used to babysit, we always had fun playing beauty shop.

Getting your daughter an older friend can reap many rewards. It gives her someone to aspire to, learn from, spend time with, help her understand the changes she will go through. Another option is to contact the the Big Brothers/Big Sisters organization.

Here is their link... http://www.bbbs.org/site/c.diJKKYPLJ...FR0RnQodjySBRA

She goes and hangs out with my cousin who is 18 and she loves it she comes and tries not to mess up her hair for as long as she can. My cousin got pregnant a few month back so I'm like ohh-nose. Bad example.

I didn't think this thread was going to become a multi pager.

[jman3000]

and for the record... you can't have 2 best friends CF... it's impossible.. one is always just a little more bester than the other.

[mrsmaalox]

You're the one that has a problem with gay people. Its ing pathetic how someone this day and age feels the need to go around hating a particular group of people for said reason. I'll continue to follow your posts because that narrow minded ed up head of yours needs constant reminding of what a backasswards ass you really are.

I hope a gay drunk drive kills you.

Wow.

[jman3000]

I didn't think this thread was going to become a multi pager.

any chance for a guy to state his opinion on how re ed women can be will not go unused.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

your SO should be your best friend only if youre over the age of 30 or so... if not then it's creepy and sad.

that.

But I don't believe in having one best friend.

[CuckingFunt]

Do you mind me asking are they female or male?

I'll say this from my experience all the best friends of opposite sex situation I've seen, they always ended because of some sort of sexual controversy. Men are not very good at separating "best friend" feelings and sexual attraction. When the best friend is a guy the sexual attraction is not present - hence no problems (in most cases anyway ).

Again not an expert, just speaking from personal observations. I have seen many of those situations unfold that way. I'm pretty sure I couldn't have a true "best friend" of the opposite sex - I have a few very good female friends, but that's not really the same.

The two people that I consider to be my very closest friends, and whom I love like family, are a guy I've known since we were kids and my first college roommate (a woman). Both are married and starting families.

[Slydragon]

any chance for a guy to state his opinion on how re ed women can be will not go unused.

[mrsmaalox]

I will say that having a male best friend worked out well when I was in a stable marriage. But before then, it's true, most guys couldn't handle it and it would turn into crush that I thought was cute, and then annoying.

[Los Spurs]

She goes and hangs out with my cousin who is 18 and she loves it she comes and tries not to mess up her hair for as long as she can. My cousin got pregnant a few month back so I'm like ohh-nose. Bad example.

I didn't think this thread was going to become a multi pager.

I have a friend who recently got divorced. He was left behind with 2 kids (boy and girl) He used to have a rough time fixing his little girl's hair until one day he explained the problem to her teacher and the teacher and some of the other student's moms take turns helping him out.

[jack sommerset]

All women cheat or will cheat. Don't let them fool you. They are horny and sneaky. Its a fact of life. Accept it. Its really no big deal.

[BacktoBasics]

you got anything other than laughing. No more bigotry, hatred and/or bashing to dish out? No more gay hate to spew forth. Come on and lets hear again how you feel. Go on and tell us why you have to go around hating people for sexual preference.

You wanna hate someone for being stupid, lazy, ignorant.....go ahead. To hate like you hate is what makes you the of our society. I hope you fall down and hit your head leaving yourself a physically worthless functioning minded mute vegetable to be raped by sexual hospital staff.

[CuckingFunt]

and for the record... you can't have 2 best friends CF... it's impossible.. one is always just a little more bester than the other.

Well, if we really want to get technical, I hate the term "best friend" and have only used it in this thread for the sake of clarity. I've never understood the concept of compe ively ranking my friends.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I gave my love a cherry that had no stem. I gave my love a chicken that had no bones. I gave my love a story that had no end. I gave—