Need Love Advice...

[ATRAIN]

Hey Ruff, have you ever given God a chance?

This is a geniune question and by no means do I intend to hijack this thread.

I understand your perspective of personal responsibility. However, I do believe certain events occur for certain reasons. I do believe in an ever present God who cares deeply for each and every individual.

1Parker1, I am confident there is a gentleman out there waiting to share his life with you, even if either of you aren't aware of it yet.

Bobbie I agree what you said about things happen for a reason but I also feel some people were meant to be alone.

[TDMVPDPOY]

hey dont be sad when you walk around or hang out with fukn friends, everywhere you go you see couples hand in hand, cuddling doing they are meant to do.......then you think to yourself wtf are you single.

thats the negative of being single....

[ATRAIN]

hey dont be sad when you walk around or hang out with fukn friends, everywhere you go you see couples hand in hand, cuddling doing they are meant to do.......then you think to yourself wtf are you single.

thats the negative of being single....

Are you talking to me, because although I said some people were meant to be single? I didnt say I was meant to be single, but I know people who really were meant to be single.

[tlongII]

nuns?

[ATRAIN]

nuns?

Yeah those came to mind

[Trainwreck2100]

me?

[1Parker1]

exactly.. I've recently been going into relationships with the mindset that I know it's going to end... someone's going to break up... if you start relationships like that... it will be easier...

her mistake was... thinking he was the one..

Sadly, I think you're right. But this isn't something I ever thought of before with anyone...that's why I thought it meant something.

I am thinking of giving in to the urge and checking my ego and calling him. I don't like the way things ended, maybe I need some closure.

Anyways, thanks everyone for your advice and kind wishes. It's actually been helpful and comforting.

[LuvBones]

Reason why you should not commit yourself into a relationship

you know one day, that person will break your heart

single life FTW.

And what would that accomplish? Never having someone break your heart? That's sad. It reminds me of the ladies I work with. They are the most bitter old ladies acting like they don't need a man, don't want a man, when it's painfully obvious they're desperate for someone. They even tried to break up my relationship to feel better about themselves being single. They need to stfu and get laid!

[Shelly]

And what would that accomplish? Never having someone break your heart? That's sad. It reminds me of the ladies I work with. They are the most bitter old ladies acting like they don't need a man, don't want a man, when it's painfully obvious they're desperate for someone. They even tried to break up my relationship to feel better about themselves being single. They need to stfu and get laid!

[1Parker1]

And what would that accomplish? Never having someone break your heart? That's sad. It reminds me of the ladies I work with. They are the most bitter old ladies acting like they don't need a man, don't want a man, when it's painfully obvious they're desperate for someone. They even tried to break up my relationship to feel better about themselves being single. They need to stfu and get laid!

Hey, I'm only in my 20's, I got plenty of time before I reach that point. Way to scare me into action though....

[LuvBones]

Hey, I'm only in my 20's, I got plenty of time before I reach that point. Way to scare me into action though....

Oh no I didn't mean that towards you! I hear you.. I'm in my twenties too and if I were single I wouldn't stress it. I've seen my older sisters marry young and divorce.. I've seen it all really when it comes to relationships so i've learned to definitely take things slow. I've been hurt badly once before thinking the guy I was with was "the one" and I felt like I'd never get over it... it was depressing for years! but looking back now I feel foolish to have felt like he was the one, so just think.. one day you'll look back and hopefully have a laugh at the situation. It's painful now but you have your whole life ahead of you. The right guy will show up one day.

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

Hey Ruff, have you ever given God a chance?

This is a geniune question and by no means do I intend to hijack this thread.

I understand your perspective of personal responsibility. However, I do believe certain events occur for certain reasons. I do believe in an ever present God who cares deeply for each and every individual.

1Parker1, I am confident there is a gentleman out there waiting to share his life with you, even if either of you aren't aware of it yet.

Bo, my mind is simply not set up to believe in God. Not going to happen. It makes no sense to me, and never has... I was kicked out of Sunday School at age 6 for saying that none of what they were talking about made sense to me. That is not to say that there aren't higher beings than us in the Universe (I'm sure there are), but I don't see why they'd care about us. I respect other's right to believe, but it just doesn't work for me, and nor does the idea that things "happen for a reason". The human mind loves to find patterns and draw associations out of the chaos of life, but that doesn't mean there's a grand scheme to things. Anyway, if I ever come to SA again we can discuss this at length in person if you like... final word from me is that a part of me envies people with rational faith (I don't count Bible/Koranic literalism aka Christian/Muslim Fundamentalism as rational), as I'm sure life makes more sense to the faithful than it does to me.

You have hit upon the major problem (besides women... ) in my life though - I really don't believe in anything, and for a deep thinker, that can become a problem because everything eventually becomes pointless. Then again, I think I'm just a bit down at the moment because a month ago I was fine with the meaninglessness of existence (if anything i am an existentialist).

[remingtonbo2001]

Ruff. have you read Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman?

Anyways, my curiosity wasn't intended to push any buttons, but rather an attempt to have a better understanding of your perspective. I'd love to continue this discussion next time you're down. It would be far top complex for the internets, let alone ST.


Thanks for sharing.