I've got a problem...

[anti_troll]

wait until a thunderstorm, go to a busy college campus with your umbrella and it's all yours for the pickin.

Good advice! If only I were currently enrolled I'd be all over that idea! I always keep an umbrella with me so who knows...

[MannyIsGod]

btw, last week i asked this cute little mexican chick out from peiwei and well... i got the "my boyfriend actually works with me, he's right over there." hahaha!

i don't talk to anyone at that peiwei but i do eat there a ton when i work at my other job and for the past couple weeks this chick has been initiating conversation after conversation with me. we talk about everything from mexico to music and all things in-between and so you can understand why i thought she had a bit of interest.

anyhow, the other week i order my food as usual. before my food was cooked this chick brings me some wonton soup for free, because it's her favorite soup there, and also brings me some limes, because she loves lime juice in her soup. and so i start to think, "well maybe i should ask her out sometime." anyhow, i didn't ask her out because of the soup but because she's cool to talk with and her body is killer.

well, shot down! anyhow, like i said before. it's a numbers game and maybe the next chick i come across works with her man too and so it goes... keep on trying. there's nothing to be ashamed of or lose confidence over if there's no mutual interest. just move along and remember, you actually asked her out!

If I was a cute little Mexican chick and you asked me out I'd point any any guy nearby and say the same thing.

[anti_troll]

try online dating

No online dating for me.... Yet

I consider dating sites to be "the easy way".

It is not embarassing to go that route, I'd just like to prove to myself that I can do it the old-fashioned, traditional way. Better to get over this hump now while I still have my good looks and relative youth going for me. I'd hate to be 40-years-old and look back and be ashamed that I never gave it a try, god knows i've got enough regrets in my life.

[anti_troll]

Start with the fat or ugly chicks first, then work yourself up to average and hot girls. I got rejected pretty bad one time and looking back at that is quite funny but at that moment it felt like . It's all about learning when you fail. Like some said, you over think it. Don't assume the girl is "the one". Just go and say hi and don't come off as a weirdo. Smile,relax, and go with the flow. You'll notice girls laugh at the stupidest things,if they do she like you, so don't think they're making fun of you.

Thanks but I don't want to get any fat or ugly girls hopes up! I'm too nice! I'd end up taking them out on a date!

[MannyIsGod]

No offense but you're 28 and you've asked out one girl. I think its fairly obvious you likely can't do the old fashion thing and there's really not much wrong with that.

The main problem is that you've built it too much now. Trying to rid yourself of the anxiety is going to be like trying to not think about something.

You really should give online dating a shot.

Oh and, you're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

[anti_troll]

No offense but you're 28 and you've asked out one girl. I think its fairly obvious you likely can't do the old fashion thing and there's really not much wrong with that.

The main problem is that you've built it too much now. Trying to rid yourself of the anxiety is going to be like trying to not think about something.

You really should give online dating a shot.

Oh and, you're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

Was waiting for that! No doubt about it.

Manny, I think I CAN do it! It's all about overcoming your fears. It's like a person with a phobia, if I have aracnaphobia I'm not going to die if someone places a spider on my leg. If I have acrophobia I'm not going to die if I go bungee jumping. I just have to learn to let go and jump.

[TDMVPDPOY]

why go double date or on blind dates, get friends to introduce u girls man

i remember back in my teens friends would always intro me the fugly chicks for no reason, fck that i bolted as soon i saw there faces....just hate friends who keep all the hot chicks to themselves who cant do with them besides being in the friendzone or reserves just in case their current relationship dont work out...fck that help out a brother...

plenty of chicks in the sea man, get out of ur tank comfort zone and do something...

[anti_troll]

why go double date or on blind dates, get friends to introduce u girls man

i remember back in my teens friends would always intro me the fugly chicks for no reason, fck that i bolted as soon i saw there faces....just hate friends who keep all the hot chicks to themselves who cant do with them besides being in the friendzone or reserves just in case their current relationship dont work out...fck that help out a brother...

plenty of chicks in the sea man, get out of ur tank comfort zone and do something...

Yep, just gotta get out of my comfort zone. I'm always up for blind dates or being set up with a girl, guess I just don't have those kinds of friends yet. I just started a new job though, so we'll see!

[ploto]

I think you have to ask yourself of what you are so afraid?

Is it just a fear of rejection- that you can not handle being turned down? Are you that insecure that the thought of her saying no paralyzes you?

Is it more about being embarrassed? Are you afraid that other people will see or find out and ridicule or make fun of you? Is that your fear?

When you figure out the specific possible outcome that has you so fearful, then you can do something to counter it.

[anti_troll]

I think you have to ask yourself of what you are so afraid?

Is it just a fear of rejection- that you can not handle being turned down? Are you that insecure that the thought of her saying no paralyzes you?

Is it more about being embarrassed? Are you afraid that other people will see or find out and ridicule or make fun of you? Is that your fear?

When you figure out the specific possible outcome that has you so fearful, then you can do something to counter it.

Ploto, the resident psychologist, thank you for your input!

I think the main fear is being embarassed. I don't want others to see me get rejected and I don't want her company, cause girls usually go in groups, to see me get shot down. Also, I don't want the people I am with see me get shot down. I know it doesn't really matter, and it sounds silly to care about that but I'm just trying to be honest with myself and with you because aren't you a shrink?

[Chachachango]

Thanks but I don't want to get any fat or ugly girls hopes up! I'm too nice! I'd end up taking them out on a date!

Just do it to work on your flirting,teasing and to see how your game flow is. You never know, you might end up: with a big girl. lol

[anti_troll]

Just do it to work on your flirting,teasing and to see how your game flow is. You never know, you might end up: with a big girl. lol

lol no effing way!

[David Bowie]

Try internet dating. It was pretty much invented for people who have trouble coming up to a person and asking them out.