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For the sake of humanity, no it's not.
speaking from experience. Don't ever go out with some guy you don't like for the sake of being nice. Just be honest, its okay to be a sometimes. Well maybe I would let him down easy at first, but if he gets worse you have to be frank and basically say you have no attraction to him, you have no connection and you are not feeling anything at all. You just gave him hope.
For the sake of humanity, no it's not.
hey well if you are gonna be nonstop and constantly bugging after you've been turned down. something has got to get through. But I understand like you have to work with a person at a job, you have to put feelings of dislike to the side. But as for dating, well you don't have to play nice. You don't like a person... you don't like a person.
Time to ditch that zero and get with a hero.... (Jenny Jones audience goes "ohhh" inthe background.)
Seriously though if this guy rubs you the wrong way why bother? You seem like a logical person and it seems illogical to subject yourself to a situation with someone you have no interest in. So just cancel. The guy sounds like he might just be really awkward around women and if you know thats not what you want dont waste your time. Tell him you have mixed emotions about it and dont think its appropriate to date anyone you work with. Perhaps present him with the chance to be your friend so he may get to know you better but if I was you I'd cancel the date.
Eh...
Go on the date. Don't go on the date. Go on as many first dates as possibe. him.
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This thread is hilarious.
Seriously. Angel, deciding if you should go on a date with this guy or not shouldn't be this difficult. And if it is, say no.
Wow, that's kind of what I said, only I didn't cringe when I re-read my post. Yikes.
So true. Oh, and
Also, coffee was always my personal favorite for a first date, around 8 so you don't have to worry about it turning into dinner or something if you don't want it to, and also early enough so that if it's really not going well you can bail out early on and salvage the evening.
When will you make the "should I get an abortion" topic?
Unless he is a Millionaire? go buy a Black Dildo to hold you over.
and I am serious.
I am not sure who hacked into her account, but I like it!
cute!
and Angel, you are making this to be way waaay more than you should be.
You never know he might have an enormous .
This sounds like one of those awkward inexperienced guys who doesn't know how to communicate with women.
To be fair, I think she made up her mind on like Page 2 about only agreeing to see this guy as a friend if at all.
To be fair, I wasn't around most of the weekend to participate in the dating advice. So, I threw in my two cents a little late. So sorry. I hope you did the right thing Angel!
It's a free dinner, it doesn't obligate you to do anything in any way, I don't see the problem here. This is why some guys are terrified of asking girls out on dates. What is wrong with you es? This is why so many women end up alone and bitter. Angel_Luv, go out on the date that you said you'd go on and stop worrying about all the bad things that might happen. That's just childish and shows your inexperience.
Sounds to be like you're too picky, especially if you haven't dated much to this point. It isn't fair to this or any other guy for you to judge him right out of the gate. Give him a chance just to show you what type of guy he is. If he's a pansy or an all-around bag then let him go.
But for you to already judge him is ridiculous. I wouldn't go around looking for the 'ideal' guy. I mean you're already setting yourself up for failure by liking only certain types of guys.
So he's shy. You'd rather him walk up to you holding his in his hand and asking you if you wanna party?
So he doesn't seem confident. You'd rather him send you naked pics of him to your office email and tell you rather then ask that he looks hot naked?
Go get some coffee and just talk. You live once, why waste it assuming and guessing how situations will be played out?
I will give you that I am in experienced.
I am worried about hurting his feelings by giving him the impression I am looking for more with him than just dinner and a conversation.
I don't see how that is childish but rather is a mature regard and concern for other people.
I want to make the best choice; my issue is, like you said, inexperience and not knowing how.
And it would not be a free dinner since I am set on paying my own way.
You dont have to worry about him. that's the beauty of it. His feelings are not your responsilbity.
You should throw some off on him and then tell us all how it went.
I concede that point to an extent.
Everyone has free choice and therefore has to power to choose how they feel and respond to whatever cir stance they are in.
But I do feel I have a responsibility, so far as I am able, to not confuse people by how I behave towards them and to preserve peoples' feeling by what I say to them.
Well then just TELL him! It's like you think he's already planning a wedding! If you are nice and honest about it, it won't hurt him. Chances are he feels the same way. It just seems to me that in the worst case scenario, this will at least be a learning experience! How else are you going to get dating experience?
I say if you just want to be friends, then be honest with him. If you don't want to hurt his feelings invite a friend to dinner with you. Nothing says I just want to be friends more than that. If he trys to ask you out again, then you can say yes but make sure he knows its only as friends.
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