Bachelor Party-You Make the Call

[exstatic]

I agree. No strippers.


















Hookers are a better value.

[CuckingFunt]

Storming out may have been a bit on the hissy fit side of things, but I don't blame him. A party thrown for you should be for you, and it's a crappy feeling when you realize your friends are selfish pricks looking to have their own fun.

Reminds me of my birthday party a few years ago -- group of friends took me out to a restaurant and had the wait staff sing to me even though I've been very clear on HATING that particular tradition with a passion. I threw my own hissy fit that night and walked out mid-song.

[TheSanityAnnex]

strippers =/= cheesy birthday song

[CuckingFunt]

strippers =/= cheesy birthday song

Well, obviously. Though I'd argue they're equally cheesy.

But they're both a case of having your wishes ignored on a night that's supposed to be about you.

Selfish prick friends = selfish prick friends.

[SpursWoman]

You know, maybe y'all are on to something about the whole tradition thing. My ex-husband never had an official bachelor party complete with strippers...and I didn't in a major drunken stupor clubbing with my girlfriends go nail some strange in some parking lot...maybe that's why our marriage didn't work out.

I'll have to remember that if there's ever a next time.

[slayermin]

Sounds like the groom wanted a night out at Dave and Busters.

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

I couldn't disagree more. He was asked if he wanted a bachelor party, and he said yeah, he did, just getting his friends together and hanging out with them. He stipulated that he did not want strippers. He's the guest of honor. How hard is it to respect his wishes?

That's not it at all.

My buddy whose bachelor party I had to rescue due to his lame ass best man told us he didn't want strippers or a strip club.

We went anyway, and he had the time of his life. A couple of weeks later his wife went out of town to visit her folks and he dragged me to the same strip club to repay the favor.

It wasn't that he didn't want to go, it's that his wife was expecting him to. So he told anyone that would listen he didn't want to go, but said he wouldn't kill me if I dragged him to a strip club.

It's not that a guy doesn't want to, it's about plausible deniability.

Or in the case of the OP, this guy was probably just a pussy. He's one of those types that probably married the first chick to suck his , and he's destined to live a miserable life.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Alright, I'm going home and I'm going to drop a secret here that we found out after the groom left. What none of the geniuses who planned this (or anyone so eager to judge the guy for leaving, with the exception of DLF) is that he had his own reasons. He knew someone from his home town that got mixed up in stripping and some bad stuff happened. He's not gay, he's not a loser, he's just a guy who didn't want strippers at his party and thought his friends could be trusted to comply with a simple wish.

You know why he didn't tell his friends about this? I am thinking because it is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Unless, of course, that guy from his hometown is him. That, I could see.

[CuckingFunt]

You know why he didn't tell his friends about this? I am thinking because it is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Unless, of course, that guy from his hometown is him. That, I could see.

Guy from his hometown? I assumed the person in question was a woman that got involved in stripping.

If he knew someone that was somehow hurt, or otherwise negatively affected, by that lifestyle, then I could see how it would make him legitimately uncomfortable.

[ShoogarBear]

I've been to both types of bachelors' parties. In both cases, the type of party fit the personality of the groom and othr people involved.

I don't think that you're a pussy if you don't want the stripper route, but in the case presented here I think both parties share blame:
-the best man obviously didn't know the groom's real wishes that well
-the groom obviously did a really ty job in choosing his best man, which I find very curious.

[ChumpDumper]

The girl in his story was probably his long lost sister and his friends inadvertantly hired her for the bachelor party. This is the only way any of this crap makes sense.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I assumed maybe one of his friends got caught up with a stripper, starting doing blow off her ass, robbed a liquor store to support his/ker habit, etc.

But why not tell them(his friends)? These guys sound like real good friends, about as close as me and Vince Vaughn.

[leemajors]

if dude says absolutely no strips, respect his wish. if you think he's doing it out of courtesy to his future wife, get him drunk then see if he wants to go to the strip club. if dude still says no, you have to admire him sticking to his guns.

[jcrod]

I've been to both types of bachelors' parties. In both cases, the type of party fit the personality of the groom and othr people involved.

I don't think that you're a pussy if you don't want the stripper route, but in the case presented here I think both parties share blame:
-the best man obviously didn't know the groom's real wishes that well
-the groom obviously did a really ty job in choosing his best man, which I find very curious.

Agree. The right of passage is a ing stupid logic.

[J.T.]

This all went wrong when whoever decided the groom should plan his own ing bachelor party. The BM should know their pal well enough to show them a good time, and if they don't, then you picked the wrong BM.

When I get married I don't want to know anything about my bachelor party beforehand other than that my friends will be there, there will be alcohol, and some crazy/cool goes down that I remember forever.

This dude walked out on naked women on one of his last days of freedom. Can we get a vbookie for how long until the divorce is settled? And will she get to take half of his with her when they split?

[travis2]

That's not it at all.

My buddy whose bachelor party I had to rescue due to his lame ass best man told us he didn't want strippers or a strip club.

We went anyway, and he had the time of his life. A couple of weeks later his wife went out of town to visit her folks and he dragged me to the same strip club to repay the favor.

It wasn't that he didn't want to go, it's that his wife was expecting him to. So he told anyone that would listen he didn't want to go, but said he wouldn't kill me if I dragged him to a strip club.

It's not that a guy doesn't want to, it's about plausible deniability.

Or in the case of the OP, this guy was probably just a pussy. He's one of those types that probably married the first chick to suck his , and he's destined to live a miserable life.

No, maybe it's because you and Dan and j-6 and tlong and everyone else who think like you are just a bunch of pricks who have to pay for it because no woman will be seen with you.

Bunch of ing assholes. But knowing the posting habits of some around here, it doesn't surprise me in the least.

[travis2]

I admit I don't get it. I really don't understand paying money for someone to torture and tease me, and then have to go home and take care of business myself. I'd rather be with someone who tortures and teases me ... and then finishes what he started. But then I have that ... and I don't have to pay for it. Maybe that's the difference?

She shoots...she scores...

[travis2]

Not at Duke.

Still posting old lies, Dan?

Some people never learn...

[leemajors]

This all went wrong when whoever decided the groom should plan his own ing bachelor party. The BM should know their pal well enough to show them a good time, and if they don't, then you picked the wrong BM.

When I get married I don't want to know anything about my bachelor party beforehand other than that my friends will be there, there will be alcohol, and some crazy/cool goes down that I remember forever.

This dude walked out on naked women on one of his last days of freedom. Can we get a vbookie for how long until the divorce is settled? And will she get to take half of his with her when they split?

bulletproof logic. dude asks for no strippers, then gets pissed when they are there and walks out. this means he will get divorced soon.

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

No, maybe it's because you and Dan and j-6 and tlong and everyone else who think like you are just a bunch of pricks who have to pay for it because no woman will be seen with you.

Actually I'm dating a girl (took her to the wedding). She knew we were planning it, and her only comment was no taking a dancer home. Fair enough, but then again she's gone out to a strip club with me before.


Actually lee hit it right...

if you think he's doing it out of courtesy to his future wife, get him drunk then see if he wants to go to the strip club. if dude still says no, you have to admire him sticking to his guns.

Get him drunk, if he still says no boobs, fine. Where this whole event went wrong for the OP is that the groom still had his car keys at that point and wasn't piss drunk.

[ObiwanGinobili]

I must say there are alot of posts in here from folks pretty much admitting that they are ty friends and assuming that every man on earth should think the same way or submit to the asshole's reasoning if situation presents itself.

And I'm not shocked.

[KEDA]

A bachelor party without strippers is like a bowling ball without a liquid center.

Bowling Balls dont have liquid centers!

and if he said no strippers, then dont have strippers.

I have been to my share of "gentlemens clubs" and Im not too impressed. There are some good looking ladies at these places, dont get me wrong, but its not worth the torture.

Respect the grooms wishes and dont do it.

When I get married, I want to just go to every bar in town and drink for free all night. Or just chill with my friends one last time as a single guy!

[SpursWoman]

Get him drunk, if he still says no boobs, fine. Where this whole event went wrong for the OP is that the groom still had his car keys at that point and wasn't piss drunk.

Re-read it. He was drunk and pissed.

[travis2]

Get him drunk, if he still says no boobs, fine. Where this whole event went wrong for the OP is that the groom still had his car keys at that point and wasn't piss drunk.

No, where it went wrong is the BM decided to ignore the STATED WISHES of the groom-to-be.

The party is about the groom-to-be, not the partygoers. How difficult is that to grasp?

[SpursWoman]

Of course, another thing I don't get ... if having some strange skank that you had to pay to rub their 's in your face is such a priority, what the would you be doing getting married anyway? If anything sounds like a recipe for a disastrous marriage, it'd be that.