An uncomfortable quandary

[2Blonde]

And maybe she was incapable. I bet she was not this way intentionally. Maybe she needed MEDICAL help. I never saw that mentioned- only counseling.

How about all those men who can not get it up for their wives? Let's not give them any medical help either.

There are medical reasons for low sex drive- not to mention the exhaustion of taking care of 3 little kids.

I mentioned it a long time ago.

It kind of seems to me that he decided to fix his own situation and satisfy his own needs rather than continue to stick it out and push for ways to help his wife. Yes, I get that they went to counseling, but because it didn't resolve the way he wanted it then he just gave up. Who's to say than another counselor or sex therapy for couples or being open and honest with his wife about what he needs in order to be happy wouldn't have worked. It seems as though he never had any intention of putting his wife first by not giving up in trying to solve whatever her problem is. Did he bother urging her to go to the doctor to see if it could be a hormonal imbalance? Nope...I guess the hookers allowed him to only think of his needs.

I just think he sounds selfish.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Cue the "Goodbye, Horses" music:

Would you me?... I'd me... I'd me hard...




And why should he have to urge her to go to the doctor? Shouldn't she want to go on her own if she cared about her marriage?

[thispego]

Women are weird. Who the wants to have sex with your girlfriend or wife if she's not really in to it? You want her to fake like she wants it? You want to have to beg and plead until she gives it up? It's not exactly comfortable going to a "specialist" or a "therapist" and divulging all of you and your spouses sexual business to some stranger. The wife is probably happy that her husband isnt forcing her to do something he knows she doesn't really want to do. I'm sure he would love to have sex with his wife and only his wife whenever he wanted (within reason), but he can't. If he wasn't sleeping with the escorts he would be the only one suffering in the marriage. Is That Right?

[Extra Stout]

Most of the men who have posted in this thread will probably have an afterlife where Satan re-enacts the torture scene from Casino Royale on them for all eternity.

[Kori Ellis]

Except they are still having sex. The frequency is the question; she's not completely shut him down. She didn't kick him out to the couch - they just aren't having as much sex as he wants.

I think that is a distinction worth noting. A man expects sex in marriage - and this is getting it. Just not as often as he would like. There should be some room for compromise - no is joined into marriage with the idea of being their spouse's sex toy.

He's not asking her to be his sex toy. He's asking for a reasonable amount of sex. Sex twice a year, or every few months isn't reasonable. It's ridiculous. If the woman went thru emotional/physical trauma and can't have sex, then the husband needs to be patient and see her through it. But she's still having sex - so she's not completely incapable.

I think it's sick that he's going to an escort. But it's also sick to think that a man (or a woman) should go months on end without sex.

I know a few people that have been in similar situation (not exact but similar).

One guy I know married his long-term girlfriend. In their first 8 months of marriage, they had sex three times. They divorced.

Another guy I know was married for a few years, had a baby. Then his wife completely cut him off - like they went two years without having sex. She said she was having "emotional trauma" too. He hung in there for the baby. Eventually, he divorced her. It came out during the divorce that she had been banging her trainer for two years.

[Melmart1]

Women are weird. Who the wants to have sex with your girlfriend or wife if she's not really in to it? You want her to fake like she wants it? You want to have to beg and plead until she gives it up? It's not exactly comfortable going to a "specialist" or a "therapist" and divulging all of you and your spouses sexual business to some stranger. The wife is probably happy that her husband isnt forcing her to do something he knows she doesn't really want to do. I'm sure he would love to have sex with his wife and only his wife whenever he wanted (within reason), but he can't. If he wasn't sleeping with the escorts he would be the only one suffering in the marriage. Is That Right?

Who the wants to have sex with a hooker -- do you think SHE is "into it." She is pretending to be into it for the profit.

And no, whether he seeks the hookers or not, I can honestly say that I doubt he is the only one "suffering" in that marriage. Particularly if she knows about it.

[SpursWoman]

I think I'm going to go home and screw the out of my DH. An ounce of prevention, and all that.

[thispego]

Who the wants to have sex with a hooker -- do you think SHE is "into it." She is pretending to be into it for the profit.

And no, whether he seeks the hookers or not, I can honestly say that I doubt he is the only one "suffering" in that marriage. Particularly if she knows about it.

escort > hooker
these are high class, disease-free, paying their way through college ladies with bangin bodies and gorgeous looks. Every red-blooded american male wants to have sex with them. And I can't speak for every situation, yes she's getting paid, but she also might enjoy herself a little too.

And my questions was: If he was being faithful to his wife wouldn't he be suffering from the lack of a sex life? The wife isn't suffering because she doesn't want a sex-life. The husband would go unfulfilled and the wife is content..... Is that a better situation?

[johnsmith]

Who the wants to have sex with a hooker -- do you think SHE is "into it." She is pretending to be into it for the profit.

Having never nailed a hooker I can't really say, but I can still say that a smoking hot 25 year old with a perfect body is what it is..........so who gives a if she's into it, as long as you win in the end.

[baseline bum]

I think I'm going to go home and screw the out of my DH. An ounce of prevention, and all that.

Best reply in the thread so far.

[Jimcs50]

I think I'm going to go home and screw the out of my DH. An ounce of prevention, and all that.

Designated hitter???


You dating Big Papi?

[SpursWoman]

escort > hooker
these are high class, disease-free, paying their way through college ladies with bangin bodies and gorgeous looks. Every red-blooded american male wants to have sex with them. And I can't speak for every situation, yes she's getting paid, but she also might enjoy herself a little too.

A hooker in high heels is still a hooker ... just because she might still have all of her teeth, she still spreads her legs for cash.

[Shelly]

I think I'm going to go home and screw the out of my DH. An ounce of prevention, and all that.

I wish I had ignored my husband. He's the that gave me the #$*#%*@%#$&^%^ flu!

Thanks, honey. Thanks a lot.

[baseline bum]

escort > hooker
these are high class, disease-free, paying their way through college ladies with bangin bodies and gorgeous looks. Every red-blooded american male wants to have sex with them. And I can't speak for every situation, yes she's getting paid, but she also might enjoy herself a little too.

And my questions was: If he was being faithful to his wife wouldn't he be suffering from the lack of a sex life? The wife isn't suffering because she doesn't want a sex-life. The husband would go unfulfilled and the wife is content..... Is that a better situation?

Hooker / stripper paying her way through college?

More like paying her way through coke addiction.

[Jimcs50]

Having never nailed a hooker I can't really say, but I can still say that a smoking hot 25 year old with a perfect body is what it is..........so who gives a if she's into it, as long as you win in the end.

I think she wins, asshole...$1200 to $2500 for 30 mins work.

You could jerk off for free, and not wake up with an itch in your crotch too.

[Melmart1]

escort > hooker
these are high class, disease-free, paying their way through college ladies with bangin bodies and gorgeous looks. Every red-blooded american male wants to have sex with them. And I can't speak for every situation, yes she's getting paid, but she also might enjoy herself a little too.

[baseline bum]

I think she wins, asshole...$1200 to $2500 for 30 mins work.

You could jerk off for free, and not wake up with an itch in your crotch too.

$1200? I wouldn't pay that to the virgin Mary.

She got a pussy made of gold or something?

[Kori Ellis]

I think she wins, asshole...$1200 to $2500 for 30 mins work.

You know some expensive hookers!

[johnsmith]

I think she wins, asshole...$1200 to $2500 for 30 mins work.

You could jerk off for free, and not wake up with an itch in your crotch too.

Ok.

[thispego]

Hooker / stripper paying her way through college?

More like paying her way through coke addiction.

yall think these are the es they pick up on COPS in sting operations or something. These are HIGH DOLLAR ESCORTS. sorry ya'll don't know about these sorts of things.

[thispego]

A hooker in high heels is still a hooker ... just because she might still have all of her teeth, she still spreads her legs for cash.

having all their teeth isn't the only thing going for these girl, I would bet.

[thispego]

maybe you all should re-read the original post. We're not talking about red-ligh district street hookers here, people.

[baseline bum]

Every time I go to a strip club I get the "I'm paying my way through college bit." Bull . I guess it sounds better than the "I need coke money and I have to buy for my loser mooch boyfriend."

[SpursWoman]

having all their teeth isn't the only thing going for these girl, I would bet.

...yeah, I guess in their profession the ability to pretend to be filled with awe at a 4 inch and be able to ignore great big ugly warts, toupee's and lifts would come in handy, too.

[johnsmith]

...yeah, I guess in their profession the ability to pretend to be filled with awe at a 4 inch and be able to ignore great big ugly warts, toupee's and lifts would come in handy, too.

Sounds like Jim's wife.