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Is the guy a Spur fan?
And if so...does he read the forum?
Angel_luv what ever you do please keep the updates coming and feel free to not leave out any of the juicy details.
I enjoy waxing my carrot to your gtg photos and a storyline will enhance the pleasure.
Is the guy a Spur fan?
And if so...does he read the forum?
I'm not reading all 6 pages but its just a date for s sake not an arranged marriage. Go have fun no matter if you're attacted or not. If it doesn't work just ask god nicely to add 4 hours on the back end of you life to make up for lost time.
Finally, people are getting it.
Geezus.
Bi-Polar love affairs never turn out that great anyway.
Good job, although you would be a great troll since you have an intelligent sense of humor.
It's times like these that Angel_luv needs our support not our criticisms.
You made a commitment to spend time with this guy, but take your own car and pay your own way, or bring a friend along if you feel uncomfortable for safety reasons. Who knows, you might hit it off. But don't do anything more to lead the guy on if you aren't interested in him, and don't say anything that would hurt his feelings.
Yes.
Probably not those exact words, but the point has been made.
what atrain said. im hungry and could go for a free meal:
im closer too.
She sounds sheltered to me...life'll change that.
Did you know that thispego is born on the same day as W?
but hasn't "life" already happened for her?
Angel even said that it was her mother's comment that she was leading this guy on that made her the most upset.
If an innocent dinner invite causes this much stress... I'm guessing no.
You're not leading the guy on by accepting. He may have just wanted to get to know you. Just go, have a meal and a conversation, and see what happens. You may get there, realize that you're not interested and go your separate ways.
You may get there, and realize you ARE somewhat interested in him.
Whatever happens, happens. The feelings are nerves. You're going to have them on your first date, no matter when it is, or with whoever it is. Might as well get them out of the way now.
Get through dinner, first, before you start planning marriage and kids. You're overthinking it way too much.
These things are tough, Angel, and don't worry about those morons who decided to let their bitterness out of the bottle by poking fun at your expense. And the last thing you are or could ever be is "a ".
I will not add anything to the advice in this thread because I think it's all been said, except that in future don't make dinner plans with someone you don't know. Coffee or lunch is fine - that gives you an hour to learn something about the person, and then it's easy to escape if you want to. If you don't want to, then you can make dinner plans.
Oh, and your easy out here is the "I don't date co-workers" move. That's an entirely reasonable position to take.
You're worried about this guy's feelings when you didn't even know his name a week ago? I don't buy that at all. IMO, you're just trying to avoid confrontation at this point. Ultimately, even after all of these posts and all the advice given, you're still leaving the decision up to him. Why? I'd guess it's because you don't want to look like the bad guy and you're trying to save face.
You want to know how people make good choices? Usually, it involves one person making a choice, picking up the pieces afterwards if things go bad and learning from their mistakes.
Anything short of that is just random luck, IMO.
This guy sounds like he's hopeless trapped in the Friend Zone. Just from what I read in the first post, this is probably the type of guy who has crush on you. I wouldn't go so far as to say infatuated but if he always looking your way and such, then it's probably just a crush. In my experiences with dating people I work with, it has never been successful. It might be different since I'm a guy, but when I dated girls from work, they were usually friends with the other girls that worked there and let's face it... some job atmospheres can be a lot like high-school... rumors and gossip spread fast. For instance, when I was in high school I took someone I worked with to prom. We liked each other and got along well, but it was kind of weird. She ended up hooking up with another dude that worked with us about three days after prom so I'm not a big fan of dating in the workplace.
So I'm not sure how it would work out from your perspective. Might be different, might not be. For instance right now, I'd like to go out with most of the women I work with, but I've learned my lesson and won't make that mistake again.
The safe thing to do would be to have a day date or something. Go have lunch, nothing fancy. It's just a meal. Going somewhere fancier or to a movie or something will just create a date atmosphere and might be awkward.
I've actually been shocked by the incredible lack of bitterness in this thread, considering the insults that get thrown around here a lot -- very little name calling, and seven pages without a threadjack? That's pretty ing admirable.
There is, somewhat surprisingly, a lot of really good advice being given here that I hope isn't being ignored just because it comes across as harsh.
Ultimately, advice isn't always nice and cheery, nor does it always support the idea you were already leaning towards when you asked. Anyone who seeks advice in this type of forum should know that, and be prepared for the potential responses, right from the start.
That's a very good point.
Change the date to coffee or lunch, meet him and get it over with. Worst case you don't like him but have to eat a meal with him, best case you like him and go from there.
Oh, and most importantly, if you aren't interested in him and he asks you out again, be clear in saying "no". If he asks why, "no chemistry" is an answer that no-one can really argue with - let's face it, if there is no chemistry is no point.
Not love life...at least that's the impression I get. That's why she's so nervous about going on a date.
I could be wrong though...
Hey guys, she's going out with the dude. That was clarified on like page 2. Damn, get with it.
Oh and I can't wait to hear the juicy details after their date (because I know a thread will be started) and then we can all discuss some more. Yes!
Awesomeness!
Totally not any more awesome than you using the word awesomeness in association with something I said.
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