Hey! They do the same thing at Perfect 10, except, well it's not EXACTLY the same...
If a friend of mine told me that, honestly I would think he's full of , like sometimes I have friends that say I don't need to bring a gift for their birthday party, I have no idea why they say it but I bring them anyway...
But to leave your own bachelor party, I don't know what to say about that...
It's really none of his business what the she does at her bachelorette party either. Unless he doesn't trust her in the same fashion we mentioned above. He should be too busy getting lap dances to worry about the hummer the missus is dishing out by the dumpster.I wonder how exactly one-sided this whole "letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood" actually is.
Would he end up having a hissy fit if she spent her last single night on Earth with some hot, sweaty beefcake rubbing his in her face? I just don't see any REAL man being cool with that.
Are you married? Cause you have some seriously f'ed up views on how things work ...
It's amusing how the predominantly female fun police show up and use words like "respect" and "trust" in a thread about bachelor party fundamentals.
Men don't get weepy when they find out that one of their own is getting hitched. We don't launch into soliloquies about how happy we are for the couple. We get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all our rowdy friends and looking at ties.
No, you have worded that wrong ... YOU get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all your rowdy friends and look at tickets.
It's been stated many times in here by multiple men that they do not share your point of view, so quit making your in blanket statements and speaking for those of us who don't agree.
I'd trust her enough to keep her mouth shut even with private strippers. She's not the kind of person that would want strippers anyway, but I wouldn't want to be the reason she tells her friends she doesn't want them.
I want to know what's so ed up about trusting your mate (whether you're male or female) in a strip bar. There's the trust issue right there. If you're going to concentrate on what they're doing rather than believing that they'll be true to you in the fashion that led you to get engaged in the first place, you probably need to reevaluate your relationship.
I've heard of some bad stuff happening as well. There are some strippers who bring their boyfriends/husbands along as "security" and then they (the stripper) "go too far" if you will and then make as if the guys in attendence where the ones "going too far" and try to extort money out of everyone who was there, or else they will go to the police and news outlets and therefore wives and famlies will find out, which usually helps in getting money out of the person who is being extorted. Violence is usually threatened, and more often than not, the "hush money" is usually paid.
No, what's amusing is you criticizing people that have been happily married for years and years ... some with teenage children, how a relationship and trust should work.
What does that have to do with a bachelor party?
damn that's dirty.
personally I agree with j-6 about the tradition part. I think that is what a bachelor party is all about and so do a whole of alot of men that just aren't going to say so. In retrospect, I also have nothing against a party without strippers. Other than the fact that I probably wouldn't attend a cake and punch bachelor party. I wouldn't be letting any of my friends down because if I did get an invite to a stripperless party it would probably mean that I don't know the person very well anyways. Which leads me to wonder how well of friends the groom and b/m were in the first place.No, you have worded that wrong ... YOU get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all your rowdy friends and look at tickets.
If the man doesn't want strippers don't get him strippers. Besides its the best man's job to do what the groom wants him to do. It's his night. What the best man should do is ask the groom if he wants an escort instead, cause he's never gonna bang another woman again..
Besides strippers = Blue Balls.. And swollen nuts for the groom doesn't sound like much fun to me...
Knowing most of the people involved, I'd say they were pretty good friends. The groom had been roommates for four years with the best man, and coworkers/roommates with the guys whose apartment the party was held in for four years. The rest were all friends from college that he had known for five years.
Knowing the groom, I'm surprised that they didn't believe him when he said he didn't want strippers - he's never joined in with going to a strip joint.
I guess it comes down to whether or not the guy thinks that his 'last night of freedom' (which, let's be honest - they haven't been free for a long time. There was a committment made when they started dating, and a further committment made when they got engaged) and doing whatever he wants, including strippers/hookers/whatever is more important than respecting his future partner's wishes (IF they feel strongly about it).
But that argument aside - THIS groom didn't want strippers and his fiancee's wishes had nothing to do with his desire to simply enjoy the company of his friends and get piss drunk and have a good time without strippers.
I still don't get why it's ok for his friends, who have known him for years, to ignore his wants for the party (WHEN THEY CONSULTED HIM - it's not as if he stipulated it without being asked - he was asked and he told them he didn't want strippers) and then party with the strippers when their friend was upset. That pretty clearly states what was most important to them, and it wasn't celebrating with the groom.
Thier opinion means as much as his does. What works for them may be entirely different from what works for others.
I'm still amazed that some of you people think a bachelor party is for the groom-to-be. It rarely is...
Ok, it's either the equivalent of the bridal shower or it isn't. If it's not for the groom, then what, exactly, is it for? The friends of the groom to be morons? Well, why have a party for that? They can go to a strip club or hire strippers anytime.
they should've just let his fiance throw the party if he was gonna be such a pussy about it.
Then why does it matter that the groom left, pissy or otherwise? If the party isn't for him, who cares?
Besides, then there was more for the rest of them that will eventually go home to an empty house.
don't believe in them
It's for the groom, in name only. For a good hall/house type BP, you want to create an atmosphere where a load of people will show, spend a lot of money gambling, drink, etc.
The strippers probably spend, on average, 8-12 minutes with the groom. The rest of their time is spent working(on or with) the crowd.
Just so you know, the strippers aren't what makes one of these types of BPs a success; a good craps table does...
The strippers are usually just eye candy.
Well, the other guys stayed, didn't they?
Just so you know, it's usually the married guys who are the most rambunctious.
I know....that's why I'm not married anymore.
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