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you mean they watch from their other home?
I know a person( a friend of a friend) who allows their neighbor next door to "babysit" for them without actually being in their house. The babysitter cares for their child while its awake but uses only a video monitor after the baby falls asleep, and the neighbor supposedly "watches" while the baby is in its crib from next door. Is this a crime? Is this ok?
I personally am sick to my stomach about it and my wife and I are seriously contemplating calling CPS on these people if we can find out their names from our friends. I am a new father to a beautiful 9 month old girl. I could never imagine considering this as a means to "care" for her in our absence. What do you think? Give me your opinion.
you mean they watch from their other home?
Yes, the neighbor/babysitter watches from next door using a video monitor while the baby sleeps in their crib in the house all alone next door.
bs thats like calling out ceiling cat
More than anything it just seems pointless and inefficient. So does she go to the house to watch the baby or does she have it at her home? I can only imagine she watches it at their house and then leaves when it's asleep, why not watch it at her own home so it can fall asleep there, or stay at their home when she watches the baby?
I don't know that I'd call CPS on someone for that. Does the home have a security system?
I would call CPS no doubt. I wouldn't even think twice about calling the police either. This is child neglect as far as I'm concerned.
If anything happens to that baby its darwinism, and that's science you can't fight science
Are the friends of your friends aware this is happening?
That's not good. I'm not sure it warrants a call to CPS---a "friendly" threat to call would probably take care of it. I don't understand how this arrangement is any more convenient for anyone than just letting the baby fall asleep at the neighbor's and picking her up when they get home. I can understand not wanting to disturb the neighbor at 2am to pick up the baby, but if there is enough trust there to allow them to babysit from next door, there should be enough trust to give them a key and let them come in and collect the kid without disturbing anyone. People are crazy.
I'm confused by the story. Where are the parents that they need a babysitter both in the daytime while the baby is awake, and at night while the baby is asleep?
And if that's not the scenario (and it's just an evening/night thing), then how does this "babysitter" do it? Does he/she care for the baby and then as soon as it falls asleep, they go home? Then what if the baby wakes up 3 hours later, they go back to the house?
Besides being weird and neglectful, that doesn't sound convenient.
It doesn't make sense but I sure as heck wouldn't want my child babysat that way.
What good is someone watching your baby that is not in the same house as them. What if the baby needed something?
Think of how much time it would take to come from even right next door- out one house into another- to the baby.
What if it was an emergency????
This story sounds made up.
My guess is this: the people don't think the baby will fall asleep at the neighbor's house or the neighbor has no crib, or it is just easier in the baby's own home. So, they want the person to babysit the baby at home, but once the baby falls asleep, the person goes back to his or her house next door and watches the baby from there on the monitor. I would assume this is when the parents go out or something in the evening. My question is why does the babysitter have to go back home?
I don't like the arrangement but I also know that people do not sit in their house watching constantly the entire time their own babies are sleeping. They get the mail or work in the yard and every mom knows it is often the only time to take a shower. So, does the person simply run home and get something for a few minutes, or does the babysitter go home for two hours??
Yes the house has a security system, I believe.
Thanks for the feedback, I had to post this story because it just seems so damn odd and irresponsible. So Paki, sorry brotha, the story is not made up. Yes our friends are aware of it and have no problem with it and told both my wife and I that they would consider doing that as well if they could. We were both taken aback by the stupidity of some parents these days.
So Kori, to try and clarify, their arrangement with the neighbor is the neighbor is at their house while the baby is awake, then after the baby falls asleep, the neighbor takes the video monitor with her and plugs it in at home to watch from there. If the baby cries , etc, the neighbor walks next door and checks on it. This is normally in the evening when the couple wants a night out. Not all day every day thing. Just from time to time.
So like AngelLuv was saying, the part I couldnt get over was what if there was an emergency, fire, eletrical short, anything, and the neighbor wouldnt have a clue without being there. Just doesnt sound safe or smart at all.
And 4cc, thanks for your opinion man. Why did you get so upset by it? It was just a question. I think I am minding my own business, I dont know the people doing it and really don't want to after hearing their childcare habits.
I personally just couldnt forgive myself if something were to happen to my child because I wanted to 'party'. I mean if you dont have a babysitter , tough . Stay home, be a parent and grow the up. Don't leave it up to a monitor, technology replacing common sense.
so theres not much difference between the baby being asleep upstairs or in another part of the house and using the monitor? its just you have to unlock a door
tell them what you think then starting2gd, if its that important it doesnt matter if they get offended or tell you to off and break the friendship
of course 4cc is a father and writes blogs on parenting so he would know
Don't call CPS and waste everyone's time. Plus I'd rather be with loving parents that leave me alone irresponsibly than with some state picked foster home where no one loves you. Then you grow up being an orphan and made fun of.
Do the parents love the kid? If they just do one irresponsible thing there is no reason to call the cops or whatever. If they talk about the kid like its an inconvenience, never bring it up in conversation, etc, then you have a good reason.
If CPS got called every time some parent did something re ed with their kid, no one would have kids.
I don't get that at all. Why does the neighbor have to be home so badly? Why can't she get a pay per view movie at the baby's house so teh baby isn't in a house all by itself? That's a stupid arrangement.
Like I said I am not a fan, but is it all that different from being in a big house- really. I know people whose houses are so close that they could get to a kid next door quicker than I could get to mine in the same house. Like I asked- does your wife take a shower while your baby sleeps? There could be a fire or an emergency then. Do you sleep at night? Of course, there could be a fire on the other side of the house during the night.
So, while I would never go for this arrangement, I also know that karma is tricky and judging other people's parenting is never a good idea.
Seems weird. But if the camera has audio as well and the baby sitter is watching in on it... whats the diff if the baby is next door or in the next room.
Screwed up priorities. Their asses need to be home with the child. An occasional date is okay but then every effort sould be made to make sure that child will be safe and well taken care of.
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