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She's in the wrong, but it's best to let that go, brother.
So long story shorter, my neighbor comes over to my house and knocks on my door, she asks if she can speak with me and I say yes, she then proceeds to tell me about something that my child (who recently turned five) was doing, she asked me to talk to him or tell him to stop or something like that, and I agreed, she then proceeded to threaten my son by saying that if I didn't (Even though I had already told her I would talk to him) she would escalate the matter with someone else, which annoyed me and I responded by saying something like, whatever, or telling her to go ahead and do it.
Now during that conversation she said she had my son on videotape (she accused him of kicking the fence while the dogs were on the other side) so I went to her house a few minutes later to ask to see the tape, so that I could punish my son appropriately depending on exactly what I saw on the tape.
Now the dispute here isn't about why she came over, it's about the fact that her husband was upset with me for going over to his house while he wasn't there.
I don't agree with his logic that it's okay for his wife to come over here, but it's not okay for me to go over there.
I wasn't rude or threatening when I went over, I simply asked to see the tape, she said no and that she was going to take it up with someone else, and for me to leave, and I said okay and left.
The thing is, she came over here, she's not some frail, soft spoken woman, and to be quite honest I doubt she's afraid of me in the least, and when I went over to her house a few minutes after she came to mine, she freely opened the door after seeing I was out there.
So if you read all this, thoughts?
She's in the wrong, but it's best to let that go, brother.
It really has been let go, at the end of the conversation I told her husband that while I didn't think it made sense, I would agree not to come over unless he was there. Even though I didn't say it, what I should have said was that if I can't go over when he's not there, that I don't want her coming over at all, and that if they have an issue they need to bring up with me that he's the one that needs to do it.
I never have a problem when I talk to her husband, but whenever I talk to her it winds up turning into more than it should be because of her at ude.
I'm just asking this now because I'm trying to see if there's something I'm missing here, because it generally seems that these people think there should be special rules FOR them, but those same rules don't have to apply TO them.
Should have done that. If you still need to see the tape, then you can still do this.
Have them both come over and bring the tape. Invite a neutral third party (maybe another neighbor?). Everybody can view it together and hash out what (if any) discipline would be appropriate.
Great neighbors. Don't know why some people need to be such pricks about little things like this, obviously he's insecure as and doesn't trust his wife.
I think that puts the 3rd neighbor in an awkward position if the other 3 adults present can't come to some sort of agreement.
She wants that angry sex dude. The husband knows his wife is a freak that is why he got pissed.
Hindsight is 20/20. It's something that I had already realized, but that even more obvious as I sat there and discussed the same issue with him that I'd discussed with his wife, and did so without any problems. If I can have that conversation with him, it's clear to me that SHE's the problem, not me and certainly not him. I should have said that but I didn't really think about the whole situation until later.
As for needing to see the tape, I figured I wasn't going to so I punished him based on what I knew. I would have rather known then if it was worse than I imagined or not as bad, but I had to just decide it was in the middle.
I don't need anyone else to see any tape or agree or disagree with anything, I'm the only person that can decide what punishment is appropriate, I'm assuming you don't have children?
I already punished him, when they are that age you really want to get to it while they still know and remember what they did.
That's a good point, but I was thinking about the third neighbor being more of a witness than moderator. Since the husband and wife obviously have an issue or two, if they become aggressive in any way, it probably wouldn't escalate nearly as far with somebody else present.
Who the tapes a 5 year old kicking a fence?
She claims he was doing more than that, but they also claimed a few other things that were hard to nearly impossible to believe, but that's not really the point of the question.
It's really just about if it makes sense that she can come over here, but I can't go over there a few minutes afterwards because her husband wasn't home.
Just tell your life partner to take care of your adopted cambodian kid and go take care of the neighbors wife. Just close your eyes and pretend she's a guy, she might even let you stick it in her pooper to make you feel better.
lol
So when she came over did she go in your house or did y'all just talk outside? That being said I would never go over to a neighbors house when the husband isn't there. You're just setting yourself up no matter what your intentions are. Better to be safe then sorry.
I don't even know who you are...Well you're a here so I hope the HOA/your neighbors kicks you out on your ass.
She stood outside, I stood in the doorway.
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have gone over there first, we're talking about going over there after she'd already been over here, what's the difference?
Look dude I was kidding about his life partner stuff. PM5K is straight and not into dudes.Well I like , so I wish I was your neighbor so you could put it in my ass.
I see what you did there...
No, it doesn't, but do you really care?
This makes one less person, the wife, you have to deal with in the future.
Consider it a blessing.
You just need to have a beer with them.
............but you went inside. Or did you view the tape from the door?
Didn't go inside, never saw the tape.
I will go ahead and ask the question that has been overlooked. Is this hot?
Nope. You think we'd be having this discussion if she was?
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