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    King of Queens Huey Freeman's Avatar
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    When you have nothing in common with them? I work in an office with 4 women (2 old, 1 deaf and one fat) and 3 dudes (1 , 1 extreme nerd and an African guy). I really try to be as friendly as I can. When one of the them interacts with me with small talk I engage in the discussion in a friendly manner, but there has yet to be an instant where I initiated small talk (which I feel may be an issue). Majority of the time I keep to myself and do my job. I mean, I literally have nothing in common with these people. 2 of them seem to like sports (the and the deaf woman), but I hate talking to casual fans about football or basketball tbh. They all go out for beers every other Friday and has invited me along numerous times, but I have declined every time. Making the excuse that I don't drink. Their bar scene is not my scene. I go to clubs/bars to find pussy with friends not to chat about my life. I'm starting to sense resentment from some of them especially the fat chick. I mean, I have friends and go out every other weekend. I feel I don't need to be "good friends" with these people to do my job.

    Am I wrong tbh?
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    Believe.
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    I chat to bang my female coworkers. Wgaf if we have anything in common.

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    King of Queens Huey Freeman's Avatar
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    ^ no coworkers bangable tbh. There are some gorgeous woman in the building I work. I make sure to talk to them when I get a chance, but they aren't my issue. It's the people I work with that is concerning me.

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    Watching the collapse benefactor's Avatar
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    I don't think you are obligated to purposely engage your co-workers. As long as you are being generally pleasant in order to get along well enough to get your jobs done that is all that is needed.

    Many of my co-workers hang out outside of work but I have maybe one or two that I have enough in common with to do that. I get along well with all of them, but I stay outside of their circles because we have core group of stirrers that live only to create drama. I'll joke and cut up with them and maybe show a few kid pictures and like that, but that's about as far as it goes.

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    Owned by cats JudynTX's Avatar
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    When you have nothing in common with them? I work in an office with 4 women (2 old, 1 deaf and one fat) and 3 dudes (1 , 1 extreme nerd and an African guy). I really try to be as friendly as I can. When one of the them interacts with me with small talk I engage in the discussion in a friendly manner, but there has yet to be an instant where I initiated small talk (which I feel may be an issue). Majority of the time I keep to myself and do my job. I mean, I literally have nothing in common with these people. 2 of them seem to like sports (the and the deaf woman), but I hate talking to casual fans about football or basketball tbh. They all go out for beers every other Friday and has invited me along numerous times, but I have declined every time. Making the excuse that I don't drink. Their bar scene is not my scene. I go to clubs/bars to find pussy with friends not to chat about my life. I'm starting to sense resentment from some of them especially the fat chick. I mean, I have friends and go out every other weekend. I feel I don't need to be "good friends" with these people to do my job.

    Am I wrong tbh?
    Well aren't you just a bundle of laughs to work with? I have one coworker who constantly likes to piss and moan about he can't control. That's when I put my ear buds in. I'm not a big fan of congregating in or around my office. I try to keep our talks business related, but every once in a while it's ok to chat about stupid .

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    Believe. Two10Whitey's Avatar
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    Work is work.. You don't have to go out with them at all. I hate my coworkers. They're stupid and want to eat all the damn time. Seems like they're asking me to bring something for the "annual" potluck every week. Then again, if you go out with them, they might surprise you and be some cool people.

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    Allenhu Joshbar DeadlyDynasty's Avatar
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    I don't talk to the Haitian ones. Don't even look at them, tbh.

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    Work is work.. You don't have to go out with them at all. I hate my coworkers. They're stupid and want to eat all the damn time. Seems like they're asking me to bring something for the "annual" potluck every week. Then again, if you go out with them, they might surprise you and be some cool people.
    The dreaded Pot Luck. That happens in my office a lot as well, and I usually offer to bring the plates/plastic ware just so I contribute in some way.

    I get along good with everyone in my office, but I'd rather eat alone than sit and have mundane conversations with random people each week in the break/lunch room. I take a late lunches just so most have cleared the eating area, or I eat out downtown.

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    Seek True Love, within. bigzak25's Avatar
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    i go drink beer at lunch with my coworker females...but i'm getting a new job soon and i know they do the potluck and i'm gonna have to be on the straight and narrow for a while...it's a whole new group of people i have to train to put up with me coming in late, taking long lunches and generally goofing off all day. it will take some time.

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    Cinnamon Girl mrsmaalox's Avatar
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    Sure why not? Don't need to hang out with them or anything, but I appreciate having some humor and interaction on the job.

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    I can't stand most of my co workers, but I'm polite because I have to be. As far as they're concerned, I'm really good friends with them.

    I did nail the only good looking girl at our office a few years back though. So that was good.

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    Believe. Two10Whitey's Avatar
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    The dreaded Pot Luck. That happens in my office a lot as well, and I usually offer to bring the plates/plastic ware just so I contribute in some way.

    I get along good with everyone in my office, but I'd rather eat alone than sit and have mundane conversations with random people each week in the break/lunch room. I take a late lunches just so most have cleared the eating area, or I eat out downtown.
    Same here.. I'll normally bring a couple of sodas or a cheap desert. It just gets out of hand when I receive suggestion lists in my inbox. Large cheesecake, homemade jalapeño poppers, BBQ, fried Oreos, anything that is expensive and/or time consuming. And the people who request that will bring a bag of chips or popcorn. And yeah when it's lunch or break time, leave me alone and don't ask me what I'm eating.

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    I hang with my coworkers outside the office/studio every now and then. It's mostly a generational thing here, though. I'm one of the more "experienced" people. We tend to all be like minded in a way. Just don't think you're better than they are. Go have a brew with them once in a while and then respectfully leave and go hunt your snatch. Sounds like the heavy chick has the hots for you, tbh........

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    Owned by cats JudynTX's Avatar
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    The dreaded Pot Luck. That happens in my office a lot as well, and I usually offer to bring the plates/plastic ware just so I contribute in some way.
    Or you guys bring chips and dips. Lame! As usual, you make the women cook.

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    The dreaded Pot Luck. That happens in my office a lot as well, and I usually offer to bring the plates/plastic ware just so I contribute in some way.

    I get along good with everyone in my office, but I'd rather eat alone than sit and have mundane conversations with random people each week in the break/lunch room. I take a late lunches just so most have cleared the eating area, or I eat out downtown.
    I do all the ordering so I order plates, utensils, etc on the company dime.

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    Believe. AntiChrist's Avatar
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    You are not obligated to socialize with your coworkers outside of work.

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    U Have Bad Understanding Sportcamper's Avatar
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    I have one coworker who constantly likes to piss and moan about sht he can't control.
    I have never seen so many Negative Yak Yaks & Chronic Complainers like we have in the workforce right now…All of them Gen X & Y’s who are “In Recovery” “Trying to Get Strong” “Moving on from Hurtful Relationships”…They complain at work M thru F & then sit at Star Bucs on Saturday with their laptops pretending to have it together…Lets not forget the tattoos of fire breathing dragons and fierce MMA Fighters…I have nothing in common with these miserable losers…I fear that the Social Security System will collapse when the hard working, intelligent, greatest generation ever Baby Boomers all retire…

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    I think I'm alone now The Loner's Avatar
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    The dreaded Pot Luck. That happens in my office a lot as well, and I usually offer to bring the plates/plastic ware just so I contribute in some way.

    I get along good with everyone in my office, but I'd rather eat alone than sit and have mundane conversations with random people each week in the break/lunch room. I take a late lunches just so most have cleared the eating area, or I eat out downtown.

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    Believe.
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    I've been lucky enough to get a great group of immediate coworkers - we go out for lunch every Monday and are very friendly(don'y hang out out of work much though).

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    When you have nothing in common with them? I work in an office with 4 women (2 old, 1 deaf and one fat) and 3 dudes (1 , 1 extreme nerd and an African guy). I really try to be as friendly as I can. When one of the them interacts with me with small talk I engage in the discussion in a friendly manner, but there has yet to be an instant where I initiated small talk (which I feel may be an issue). Majority of the time I keep to myself and do my job. I mean, I literally have nothing in common with these people. 2 of them seem to like sports (the and the deaf woman), but I hate talking to casual fans about football or basketball tbh. They all go out for beers every other Friday and has invited me along numerous times, but I have declined every time. Making the excuse that I don't drink. Their bar scene is not my scene. I go to clubs/bars to find pussy with friends not to chat about my life. I'm starting to sense resentment from some of them especially the fat chick. I mean, I have friends and go out every other weekend. I feel I don't need to be "good friends" with these people to do my job.

    Am I wrong tbh?
    It is generally and loosely called "office politics" and IMHO you are proceeding in the proper way.
    But outside of the office, is your business.
    I was taught to leave work, at work, when pursuing my private and personal life.
    But be aware that their perception of you will probably be as an "outsider" and set you up for derision.
    If you can deal with that, you're fine.

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    GFY I. Hustle's Avatar
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    No one.

    It's not like ST is anything like real life. It's just an outlet and people work that outlet in various way. Some people create completely fake lives(, but whatever), some people work the shock value angle, some people are attention s and some just talk a lot of because that's what this place was made for and why it is essentially unmoderated. You can easily go a little(or a lot) overboard with what you say and there are no repercussions due to the anonymity. It's easy to get someone to take it seriously and that's what makes it fun. If you are getting mad enough to fight someone on the internet you probably need to spend a little more time interacting with people on a face to face level.

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    Owned by cats JudynTX's Avatar
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    I have never seen so many Negative Yak Yaks & Chronic Complainers like we have in the workforce right now…All of them Gen X & Y’s who are “In Recovery” “Trying to Get Strong” “Moving on from Hurtful Relationships”…They complain at work M thru F & then sit at Star Bucs on Saturday with their laptops pretending to have it together…Lets not forget the tattoos of fire breathing dragons and fierce MMA Fighters…I have nothing in common with these miserable losers…I fear that the Social Security System will collapse when the hard working, intelligent, greatest generation ever Baby Boomers all retire…
    There won't be any Social Security for us.

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    Believe.
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    It is generally and loosely called "office politics" and IMHO you are proceeding in the proper way.
    But outside of the office, is your business.
    I was taught to leave work, at work, when pursuing my private and personal life.
    But be aware that their perception of you will probably be as an "outsider" and set you up for derision.
    If you can deal with that, you're fine.
    I don't think he is proceeding in the correct way if he is starting to get resentment from them. As long as he does his job well and his boss likes him he's probably safe,

    But when review time comes around and HR starts interviewing his office mates, if it comes out that he's not a "team player", then that might negatively affect him.

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    I cannot grok its fullnes leemajors's Avatar
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    I've been lucky enough to get a great group of immediate coworkers - we go out for lunch every Monday and are very friendly(don'y hang out out of work much though).
    That's how I usually kept it when I was in the office. Been working from home the last 3 years now though.

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    Believe.
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    That's how I usually kept it when I was in the office. Been working from home the last 3 years now though.
    Where do I sign up?

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