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No advice, I'm just sorry it went that way for you.
Get in a fight with a family member.
Unwrapping gifts quietly not saying a word.
Miserable all day.
Sucks having days like that on christmas.
Making other family members upset to the point where they feel like its their fault, when they werent even involved.
Sucks when you finally have one of those, and makes you cry all evening.
Yeah, Im a bandwagoning lying asshole.
So ing what. I have feelings too.
Sorry, had to vent.
You guys Im sure will have great advice, I just needed to vent.....
No advice, I'm just sorry it went that way for you.
Sorry to hear that T Park...
Oh and to follow up how horrible I am, cause yeah some of you know it.
I can be a prick, and prob not can be, but am.
I guess i forgot to unwrap two gifts from my mom and my cousin called me and said my mom was really sad about that.
So now ive made the most sweetest, greatest person in the world, that is my mom, sad on christmas.
As Aggie and others have said
way to go T Park....
What happened?
long story short.
I accidentally broke a bar stool.
Totally by accident.
me and the old man get in a fight.
Im in one room hes in the living room.
Were both watching the game.
I was so pissed i refused to go unwrap presents.
When I finally got unpissed, we did, but old Dad was too concerned with the Spurs game to pay attention to what me or Mom was unwrapping.
Mom wanted to see a movie, I didnt really but went along with it, cause the pangs of "your a horrible son" got to me, so i went, the movie kinda sucked.
but got home, me and mom had a talk, we aired some things out..
We both cried.
She told me how it was the worst christmas ever cause you and your dad were mad at each other, and you were both mad at the Spurs (we butt heads alot, hes pretty much like the myopian on here, Finley has one good game, great pickup one bad one, sucks I can see why Dallas cut him)
so then me and mom have a good cry.
SO I come home, find an email from my cousin saying I forgot to unwrap to presents and that really bothered my mom.
So, it was a ty christmas.
But what makes it worse, I let some petty arguement and some stupid ass ing basketball game, come between me and fam for christmas.
So all the reality starts to hit me and sucha nd I felt like a head.
No one from my family is up,
so i decided to tell my friends on here.
Sorry, had to vent, let it out.
If you dont, I guess thats unhealthy or whatever.
Just, long standing issues are continuing to come up and, i dont know.
Life sucks right now...
25 years old, and still having issues with mom ad dad.
Guess thats normal?? buzzz wrong.....
Like I said, Im sure some of the people that dont like me,
Smeagol and others
will enjoy reading this, as Smeagol said one time "Your misery gives me happieness"
Sorry about your day.
For the most part, issues with your parents never go away. Until you realize that THEY are probably too old to change, and so you have to be the one to just accept them for what they are, and make the acceptable changes in yourself to get along.
Life got a lot easier once I did. Also makes the last years with them much more pleasant.
Yep, the only thing you can change is yourself.
I personally make a conscious effort that birthdays, christmas, anniversaries and thanksgiving are off limits to arguments and disagreements. Even if the Spurs have the JV game on ABC.
Until you realize that THEY are probably too old to change, and so you have to be the one to just accept them for what they are
Yeah, I guess thats the problems me and my old man are havin.
Hes a grumpy, short tempered guy, and in real life (notice i said real life) im a easy come easy go guy
and that clashes...
Guess I should be the one that should be embarassed.
Sorry once again to waste bandwidth on this...
LJ has that same philosophy. It stops me from getting worried/upset about stuff. If anything happens slightly wrong, he says, "That's fine .. it's Christmas" and then I think .. ehh, you're right.
TPark, I know that sometimes relationships with your parents can be rough -- but you are lucky to still have them and they do love you. Treasure the good stuff and realize that the "bad" stuff isn't worth sweating/arguing over.
Yeah, but you get your money's worth the rest of the year.
I just wish they had done something to prove they didn't deserve it.Even if the Spurs have the JV game on ABC.
Yeah.TPark, I know that sometimes relationships with your parents can be rough -- but you are lucky to still have them and they do love you. Treasure the good stuff and realize that the "bad" stuff isn't worth sweating/arguing over.
I do believe that.
Its just, in the heat of the moment, I forget that, and let my stupid ass ego get in the way.
And I always feel like crap later lol.
Ol T Park never learns.
Today was kind've cool, we actually watched the Pistons wack the Spurs ass and laughed about it. Then we threw down on some Ham. Ate alot of desserts... drank lots of crown and coke....
Then Karaoke for about 3 hours. It was cool.
Oh... my mom lives in this group home in Kansas and I called her and she said, "yeah boy... I watched your team today... that was a waste of my time....."
Shoog speaks the truth. Acceptance with the parental units is a big step to living a happy life.
I'm sorry you had such a crappy day. Maybe you can go back over there tomorrow, open your gifts, and make nice with your dad. I hope everything works out for you.
If I've got anything to offer on the subject its apologiose, even if you dont think your in the wrong. All it take is one to man up and accept there fault in the escalation of the issue and the rest should follow suit.
Soon all will be good, forgive and forget.
T Park,
Honestly get on right terms with your parents our life on this earth isnt a given. It can be taken from us at any time. I know it wasnt the greatest Christmas but it could be worse.
I had probably the worst Christmas this year, cried a lot of tears, but seriously make things right with your parents, and enjoy the time you have with each other on this earth.
RIP Grandpa I love you
Last edited by iminlakerland; 12-26-2005 at 03:50 AM.
Wow....
I hope things go better for you all next year. Its supposed to be a time of joy, but I understand...
It was tough making that call to my Grandma in the nursing home in Kansas today, she definitely wasn't happy about being there... my brother didn't go visit here today, so that kind've blew.
Man... really.... make it a better day tomorrow.
keep your mom happy - that's all I can say.
Sometimes you have to suck it up during Christmas.
Make eye contact with the obnoxious brown nosing relative.
Smile that smile to those you really don't want to talk to.
Give the oppligatory hug to the rarely seen cousin, aunt or uncle.
Bite your tongue when you really want to say, "What the ....."..
Stick around long enough so that everyone knows you were there.
Eat.
Hope things to better for the New Year!
Make amends.
That's very true.
Not to demoralize you even further, but you know how as you get older you become your parents? Well it's true and it does not help with the issues, so the only thing to do is to become Switzerland for the holidays and accept the fact that EVERYTING they do is usually motivated by their love for you (I know sometimes it's hard to believe - but it is).
Oh and call your mom and clear out the unopened presents thing - it will make both of you feel a lot better.
Sorry about your grandpa iminlakerland
Man, I had a bad Christmas Eve myself. I was feeling really ing out of it early that morning and had a bit of a breakdown. Mandy game and got me and we went and had breakfast, so all I can say is that I'm very thankful for having good friends.
I had a lot of bad luck this year, but I had a lot of good luck too. And I saw people who had it way worse, too. I don't know, at some point you learn to really apprecaite whats important in life.
This is my first year without having any parents at all to be with for the holidays....so trust me, don't sweat the small stuff and make the most of all of your time together. They will always be who they are going to be, and the best thing you can do is adapt to them....(and lots of deep breaths and counting stuff). It's definitely worth the effort.
I've had Christmases or other holidays like that in the past. They are miserable and I'm totally sorry, TPark.
I still have issues with my parents or family at 25. Just because you are an adult doesn't make years of intricate family patterns or old hurts go away. It only increases your ability to see things in their full complexity and hopefully the ability to be empathetic and willing to acknowledge that there are always other sides to the story.
When you have the opportunity, think over some of the things that push your buttons about family and why. I know that my mom can push my button faster than anyone because of a tone or a look. My husband doesn't get why I'm so hot about it, but it's because of the history of that tone . . . Anyway, when you know why or when things will get to you, then you can make a more concious effort to recognize when it's happening and bite your tongue or diffuse the situation. And that's all you cn do with family - diffuse the situation, grin and bear it or leave the family. It doesn't sound like things are at that point yet.
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