softness has nothing to do with tattoos, headbands or thuggery. a team a soft if it has a porous defense. a team is soft if it does not have the intestinal for ude to go for blood anytime they have a team down. a team is soft if it is unwilling to deliver a hard foul every now and again to send a message saying that this painted area is my house and you cannot come in here and leave unscathed. a team is soft if it shies away from physicality. a team is soft if the expect the refs to bail them out on every unsuccessful foray into the paint instead of playing through til you hear the whistle.
i could go on and on. but your attempt to connect it with headbands and tattoos is way off base