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naaa...it just makes you OWNED...
you have been officially dumped...did you get the ring back?
Alright, say you have a fiance, and you both mutually break up, but to give each other some time alone to think.
You both say its good for it to happen, well come back fresh and Ok.
This is say, the 15th of December, and her company party is the 18th of December.
Say she meets this guy and decides to start dating him.
When you ask my you cant get back together she gives you reasons of,
I want to work on myself, I dont want commitments, and we have different goals.
Does this make her a skank, or not.
YOU MAKE THE CALL!!!!!!!!!!!!
naaa...it just makes you OWNED...
you have been officially dumped...did you get the ring back?
If you want my friendly advice... Mutual breaks (or break ups) should happen before engagement, not after. It sounds like both of you were uncertain of the permanance of this relationship, and it's probably a good thing you didn't go through with the marriage.
lol, now I guess I know what the mouse inside the snake (Kobe Bryant thread) felt like.naaa...it just makes you OWNED..
Yeah she sent me back the ring on the 27th.
Guess I can hock that for a HD TIVO Directv reciever.
Spurm,
doesnt make it hurt any less IMO.
Whats funny, is, if this was some girl you date for a few months, you tolerate things that are bad, but you enjoy 1 thing, it doesnt hurt that bad.
When that person enjoys everything that you do together, and you seem like best friends.
Its worse.
GO fig.
I don't know about a skank but it makes her a liar.
More friendly advice from someone who's been there...mutual break-ups and relationship time outs are always trouble. Someone's not happy, and she is going to take the first opportunity to try and get happiness from someone else. If the new person makes her happier, just even for a little while, she'll just be thanking God that they didn't wind up hitched in the first place. If not,means that the commitment that you have together she no longer wants, working on herself means that she wants to play the field, and different goals mean that she wants something different from somewhere else.I want to work on myself, I dont want commitments, and we have different goals.
Sorry to sound so harsh. At least you broke up before she could lay claim to half of what you own.
Not harsh, its truth.
Im just happy the people that have posted here have been adult about it and giving good advice.
I apreciate it.
If she'll do it to you, she'll do it to someone else. Believe it.
She was married before being engaged to me, so thats probobly true.
I HAD IT COMING!!! lol
Whats really erie, is how, when I talk to her on the phone, is how calm, and how
business like everything is.
I mean, before we were like two buddies talkin about old times.
Oh well, I really shouldnt be wallowing in the pity I guess.
Unfortunately, most breakups don't occur because both people wanted to do so. It is usually because one of them is unhappy. It sucks but you gotta let go. It doesn't make it any better by trying to force the issue. It is normal to want to hang onto someone you love but in the end, it won't work unless both want to be there. I am not proud of it but I speak from experience on more than one ocassion. Go out and be with someone who wants to be with you.
let her go man. it hurts, but time passes. at least she had the decency to break up before christmas....very unlikely she met this guy that she started dating at the party, immediately after you two decided to take a break. most likely, she had decided to start dating him before the party and may have been doing so already. instead of continue to lie, she came clean and broke it off with you.
why keep in contact is what i want to know?
lotsa fish in the sea man....you should know some mexican national's hottie daughters by now....go get'em.
"Hands on, I'm Disengaged!"
park, does she have any good looking friends? sister? what's her mama look like?
payback is a .
her mom is a werido
no sisters.
Lol thanks for the levity User."Hands on, I'm Disengaged!
I have kind of let go, but when your engaged, you start to plan stuff.
Now it almost feels like, your starting all over again, and IMO, that is what sucks most of all.
If she'll do it to you, she'll do it to someone else. Believe it.If you were talking about being unfaithful, I'd probably agree...but since this seems pretty above-board, I don't think anything could be further from the truth. As a matter of fact, I kind of take offense to that somewhat--I'm a formerlly married person, too, and I assure you we're not all running around looking for someone to hurt.She was married before being engaged to me, so thats probobly true.
I HAD IT COMING!!! lol
If she's been married before and the situation was bad enough to end in divorce, I can tell you first hand she already knows what she can deal with and what she cannot...and how she wants to feel and knows when she does not feel *it*. If there are serious doubts it's far better to end it before it becomes a lot more complicated (ie, kids, property). No one should settle for so-so, and since this was "mutual", I gather that your feelings for her weren't as strong as you thought either. You both deserve better than that.
And of course it's rough and feels like you're having to start all over again. Just be glad you're still in your early twenties and don't have kids....it's a lot easier finding The One meant for you than starting over in your 40's or 50's...or even 60's.
Oh well, I really shouldnt be wallowing in the pity I guess.
Don't even. You'll find the right one for you, she's out there somewhere.
i'm sure she was already flirting with or dating the guy BEFORE what you THOUGHT was a mutual breakup...
When people break up prior to marriage, they have find a way to look at it as a blessing even though it hurts. Breaking up with a girlfriend or a fiancee' is definitely easier than divorcing a wife.
All this means is that she's not the woman for you. And there's millions of other women available who might be. There's a perfect girl for you. And she's going to treat you with kindness, respect, and love. When you meet her, they'll be no doubt that you want to spend forever with her.
Yes, you are exactly right. Because we are women, we are all evil.i'm sure she was already flirting with or dating the guy BEFORE what you THOUGHT was a mutual breakup...
If I'm *into* someone enough to be planning a wedding with him, there isn't another man on the planet that would illicit even the slightest interest.
If she was doing that, then good riddance.
i don't think women are evil..if a woman posted the same thing i'd say the same thing, "he was already seeing her."Yes, you are exactly right. Because we are women, we are all evil.
If I'm *into* someone enough to be planning a wedding with him, there isn't another man on the planet that would illicit even the slightest interest.
If she was doing that, then good riddance.
but one day she is engaged and then they decide to break up...that means the engagement is over... then 3 days later she "found" someone already... i don't believe it and you shouldn't either...
park....did you guys have a healthy sexual relationship...
were you knocking it out man? women don't walk away from a good toungue.
What if her kids were planning the wedding?Yes, you are exactly right. Because we are women, we are all evil.
If I'm *into* someone enough to be planning a wedding with him, there isn't another man on the planet that would illicit even the slightest interest.
If she was doing that, then good riddance.
You couldn't say package could you?
well me and park are big guys....we like to eat.
What if her kids were planning the wedding?
Then I guess it's just as well they are spared the tantrum sure to follow the "No, honey, we most certainly are not having it catered by McDonald's, and no GTA'ing for dollars."
You couldn't say package could you?
I thought that was part of the package?
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