Question for women

[Slomo]

The two people that I consider to be my very closest friends, and whom I love like family, are a guy I've known since we were kids and my first college roommate (a woman). Both are married and starting families.

OK

I was asking, because I have no idea how women feel about these things. I am however pretty sure that if your so close to that guy, he has had (have?) sexual fantasies about you, and given the opportunity would have acted on them.

Now I maybe wrong and I am passing judgment on a person that I don't even know - but the odds are on my side.

[Greg Oden]

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I hope you fall down and hit your head leaving yourself a physically worthless functioning minded mute vegetable to be raped by sexual hospital staff.

you're better at this stuff than midge.

[CuckingFunt]

OK

I was asking, because I have no idea how women feel about these things. I am however pretty sure that if your so close to that guy, he has had (have?) sexual fantasies about you, and given the opportunity would have acted on them.

Now I maybe wrong and I am passing judgment on a person that I don't even know - but the odds are on my side.

You're probably right, but I tend not to think that's a big deal either.

I have always found it ridiculous to assume that sexual fantasies go away the second you enter a relationship. I know I'm still sexually attracted to other people, I know the people I've dated are still sexually attracted to other people... as long as there's no lying and no acting on it, who really cares?

[BacktoBasics]

you're better at this stuff than midge.

I wouldn't go that far. Talent is talent and he has it.

[JoeChalupa]

I think it is natural for a boyfriend/ girlfriend to desire to be the focus of their SO's consideration/ attention.

When I hear of a guy who prefers a female friend's companionship over that of his girlfriend, it makes me wonder why he is dating the girlfriend.

It is not so much a "preference" but couples do need some time apart. Both the wife and I have gone on overnight trips just to "get away". Relationships need nurturing and maintenance from time to time. We are going to a marriage encounter next year.
It is not that I prefer the company of others but she'd prefer NOT to go with me to certain gatherings or events.

[Greg Oden]

I wouldn't go that far. Talent is talent and he has it.

dont be so sure.


he's a one trick pony who usually only deals with wishing aids and cancer, while you provide a much more creative side

[BacktoBasics]

dont be so sure.


he's a one trick pony who usually only deals with wishing aids and cancer, while you provide a much more creative side

Never under estimate working to your strengths. Much like mom jokes AIDS and Cancer voodoo never gets old.

[Slomo]

You're probably right, but I tend not to think that's a big deal either.

I have always found it ridiculous to assume that sexual fantasies go away the second you enter a relationship. I know I'm still sexually attracted to other people, I know the people I've dated are still sexually attracted to other people... as long as there's no lying and no acting on it, who really cares?

Oh, I agree 100%. It also makes the "best friends" situation between opposite sex very difficult if not impossible. The point I was trying to make is that other factors/restrains stop men from acting upon it - not the "best friend" status.

[angel_luv]

It is not so much a "preference" but couples do need some time apart. Both the wife and I have gone on overnight trips just to "get away". Relationships need nurturing and maintenance from time to time. We are going to a marriage encounter next year.
It is not that I prefer the company of others but she'd prefer NOT to go with me to certain gatherings or events.

I have female friends that I get together with regularly. Bo has guy friends that I encourage him to hang out with.

I was referring to how I would feel if Bo's best friend was a female.

Other than his mom, granny, and his sister, the only female I want Bo to call regularly is me.

Bo does have a female friend from high school that he talks to occassionally, which is fine with me.
Granted that friend is married and has two kids.
If she were single, I would have a much harder time being okay with it.

[Greg Oden]

Never under estimate working to your strengths. Much like mom jokes AIDS and Cancer voodoo never gets old.

to my knowledge, none of the stuff he wishes on people haven't happened


i'd think that guy getting raped by a staff would happen before trainwreck catching a nasty std

[Los Spurs]

you got anything other than laughing. No more bigotry, hatred and/or bashing to dish out? No more gay hate to spew forth. Come on and lets hear again how you feel. Go on and tell us why you have to go around hating people for sexual preference.

You wanna hate someone for being stupid, lazy, ignorant.....go ahead. To hate like you hate is what makes you the of our society. I hope you fall down and hit your head leaving yourself a physically worthless functioning minded mute vegetable to be raped by sexual hospital staff.

I laugh because I find it amazing that someone can get so mad about someone else's comments on this forum. This is the freakin' internet for crying out loud. Anything said on here shouldn't be taken so serious.

And just so that you know it, I have 1 gay and 2 sexy bi-sexual cousins whom I love so much and no ing comment I put on a forum is going to make me love them any less...

[BacktoBasics]

I have female friends that I get together with regularly. Bo has guy friends that I encourage him to hang out with.

I was referring to how I would feel if Bo's best friend was a female.

Other than his mom, granny, and his sister, the only female I want Bo to call regularly is me.

Bo does have a female friend from high school that he talks to occassionally, which is fine with me.
Granted that friend is married and has two kids.
If she were single, I would have a much harder time being okay with it.

This bring up the issue of married women that cheat so frequently.

[mrsmaalox]

to my knowledge, none of the stuff he wishes on people haven't happened


i'd think that guy getting raped by a staff would happen before trainwreck catching a nasty std

But that guy is a girl. That lessens the odds, no?

[BacktoBasics]

I laugh because I find it amazing that someone can get so mad about someone else's comments on this forum. This is the freakin' internet for crying out loud. Anything said on here shouldn't be taken so serious.

And just so that you know it, I have 1 gay and 2 sexy bi-sexual cousins whom I love so much and no ing comment I put on a forum is going to make me love them any less...

lmao @ you telling me to take the interweb with a grain of salt...like I don't know how it works. I must have been upset because my posting style deviated from the norm so drastically. Bigot and dumb so you're a pretty normal combo.

at this next part

And just so that you know it, I have 1 gay and 2 sexy bi-sexual cousins whom I love so much and no ing comment I put on a forum is going to make me love them any less...

Suuuure. I gay bash because I have gay friends blah blah blah...

we've heard it all before, you're a bigot and piece of .

Not to mention you just called your cousin sexy. ing weirdo.

[Greg Oden]

But that guy is a girl. That lessens the odds, no?

maybe




also, i'm tired of logging into and out of this sn, so any other direct convo with me will be returned by my reg. sn

[leemajors]

Other than his mom, granny, and his sister, the only female I want Bo to call regularly is me.

This is a warning flag.

[remingtonbo2001]

Bo does have a female friend from high school that he talks to occassionally, which is fine with me.
Granted that friend is married and has two kids.
If she were single, I would have a much harder time being okay with it.

Katie?

Considering she resides on the other side of the country, I doubt you'd have any concerns, even if she was single.

This is the girl I shot up with a paintball gun, because she tried to TP my house. Yes, I definitely see the potential.

[Los Spurs]

I have female friends that I get together with regularly. Bo has guy friends that I encourage him to hang out with.

I was referring to how I would feel if Bo's best friend was a female.

Other than his mom, granny, and his sister, the only female I want Bo to call regularly is me.

Bo does have a female friend from high school that he talks to occassionally, which is fine with me.
Granted that friend is married and has two kids.
If she were single, I would have a much harder time being okay with it.

In regards to the last part of your comment. I've been married 15 years and one of my husband's best friends is a beautiful lady he met back in college. She is currently divorced and always calls my husband to talk about everything. At first I was a little nervous about the whole situation because she is very pretty and currently single, so I sat down with him one night and asked him if he would ever leave me for Misty (not real name). He told me that Misty was in his life way before he even met me and that if he chose me to be his wife was because I was the one.
So, I don't think their should be a reason to get jeolous if your boyfriend has friends whether they are single or not. Just remember that if he is with you, it's because you're the one.

[angel_luv]

This bring up the issue of married women that cheat so frequently.

Unfortunately, you are right. Because a woman is married is no guarantee that she won't become involved with another man.


That is why you have to know that you can trust your SO, which I do.

My dad and mom both had an abundance of individual friends as well as mutual ones, but when it was all said and done, the person they each most loved to talk to was the other.

That's what I personally want in a relationship.

[BacktoBasics]

Katie?

Considering she resides on the other side of the country, I doubt you'd have any concerns, even if she was single.

This is the girl I shot up with a paintball gun, because she tried to TP my house. Yes, I definitely see the potential.

If this turns into your first couple fight I'll consider this thread a success. However you might get shafted on the make up sex.

[JoeChalupa]

I have female friends that I get together with regularly. Bo has guy friends that I encourage him to hang out with.

I was referring to how I would feel if Bo's best friend was a female.

Other than his mom, granny, and his sister, the only female I want Bo to call regularly is me.

Bo does have a female friend from high school that he talks to occassionally, which is fine with me.
Granted that friend is married and has two kids.
If she were single, I would have a much harder time being okay with it.

I understand. But the way I see is if your SO understand he/she is in a relationship then it shouldn't matter if the friend is single or not because your SO ISN"T. My marriage and children mean more to me than having sex with another woman ever would. The fact that a close friend of mine happens to be single doesn't matter because I'm married and that trumps their being single. If that makes sense.

[BacktoBasics]

In regards to the last part of your comment. I've been married 15 years and one of my husband's best friends is a beautiful lady he met back in college. She is currently divorced and always calls my husband to talk about everything. At first I was a little nervous about the whole situation because she is very pretty and currently single, so I sat down with him one night and asked him if he would ever leave me for Misty (not real name). He told me that Misty was in his life way before he even met me and that if he chose me to be his wife was because I was the one.
So, I don't think their should be a reason to get jeolous if your boyfriend has friends whether they are single or not. Just remember that if he is with you, it's because you're the one.

at the lines your man feeds you. Same kind of all cheaters feed their "innocent" spouse. I hope Misty's pussy tastes nice.

[JoeChalupa]

In regards to the last part of your comment. I've been married 15 years and one of my husband's best friends is a beautiful lady he met back in college. She is currently divorced and always calls my husband to talk about everything. At first I was a little nervous about the whole situation because she is very pretty and currently single, so I sat down with him one night and asked him if he would ever leave me for Misty (not real name). He told me that Misty was in his life way before he even met me and that if he chose me to be his wife was because I was the one.
So, I don't think their should be a reason to get jeolous if your boyfriend has friends whether they are single or not. Just remember that if he is with you, it's because you're the one.

+1 I concur.

[BacktoBasics]

I understand. But the way I see is if your SO understand he/she is in a relationship then it shouldn't matter if the friend is single or not because your SO ISN"T. My marriage and children mean more to me than having sex with another woman ever would. The fact that a close friend of mine happens to be single doesn't matter because I'm married and that trumps their being single. If that makes sense.

With that said some people in the heat of the moment, when that rare opportunity comes knocking, have trouble turning down the quick high from fresh meat over the big picture. I'm not saying your mentality is flawed, its not. Human nature is to take the chance if its there.

[angel_luv]

Katie?

Considering she resides on the other side of the country, I doubt you'd have any concerns, even if she was single.

This is the girl I shot up with a paintball gun, because she tried to TP my house. Yes, I definitely see the potential.

Yes, Katie.

The only reason I am not concerned is because I trust you.
I expect to like Katie, but I don't know her to trust her.


But at the end of every day, I am just going to have to trust you and not worry about the other women you are bound to meet at work, school, whatever.

I'm sure you'll meet plenty of girls in the course of our relationship who wish they could date you- like that girl the twins introduced you too.
Too bad, ladies.