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    I can live with it JoeChalupa's Avatar
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    Oh, and there is no way I'd be texting some 14-15 yr old girl if my son had her over. In today's world, that is playing with fire. Innocent as it may be.

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    If your sis is hot then leave it alone that way he can say he's been a MF'er since 14.
    If she is a wild hog then stop it right now. Bros before hoes man.








    j/k

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    BOlieve manufan10's Avatar
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    I agree with most everyone on here. I do find it VERY strange that she's texting this kid. She may have just reasons for doing so, but if someone sees the phone or the kid brags about talking to your sister some bad assumptions can and will be made. If I was in her shoes, I wouldn't be texting the kid; I would have my daughter do it. I would also NEVER ask her boyfriend to spend the night. Someone said to investigate it a little deeper before confronting her, and I think that's a great idea. However, I would also hint at her to stop texting the kid. I don't think it's a very good idea for her to be doing that. Let her daughter do the talking.

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    i hunt fenced animals clambake's Avatar
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    it's creepy.

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    It's a process... mexicanjunior's Avatar
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    I have more of a problem with the texting than the hotel room...

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    Cinnamon Girl mrsmaalox's Avatar
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    I have a 13yr old daughter and when a boyfriend pops up (gawd I hate how that sounds!) there will definitely be no sleepovers happening. I totally agree with the poster who suggested moderation; different kids have different emotional/psychological development rates and pushing them together might be risky. Also what happens when the kids break up, as they undoubtedly will? Is she going to be able to remain neutral and be the support her daughter needs? I may be wrong, but I think she's teaching her daughter how to "hold on to a man" by facilitating the situation, and that won't help her daughter in the long run.

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    BOlieve manufan10's Avatar
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    I have a 13yr old daughter and when a boyfriend pops up (gawd I hate how that sounds!)

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    Beware of the Voices Bigzax's Avatar
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    need pics of your sister paki.

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    What does she text the boyfriend to say?

    I can't imagine what the mother would have to say to the boyfriend via text. If she wanted to ask him something, wouldn't she just tell the daughter to ask him?

    If she texts something like, "Well pick you up at 8" then I understand that (maybe?)... but if she is just texting for conversation, then that's beyond strange.
    But why does the mom have to text at all? If it's a, "We'll pick you up at 8" situation, you'd think she'd tell the daughter to text him.

    As far as the hotel room, I think everyone is assuming they're getting one bed? (or did Paki post that?). If she got a room with two beds, then the mom could sleep with the daughter (with one eye open the whole night) and the BF could have the other bed.

    But I still think it's strange your sister is constantly texting the BF. And even if it's innocent, the BF could totally take it as something more.

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    This is hypothetical....

    What happens when they break up and the kid says he was raped just to be a . Now there's proof they stayed in the same room and there's phone records of her sending text messages to him on a regular basis......doesn't look good.

    I work at a school district and the first thing they teach us is even if you have the best of intentions towards kiddos, it's always safer just to not put yourself in those kinds of situations....like being in the classroom alone with a kid, or making comments on how they're dressed....etc.

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    Cinnamon Girl mrsmaalox's Avatar
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    But why does the mom have to text at all? If it's a, "We'll pick you up at 8" situation, you'd think she'd tell the daughter to text him.

    As far as the hotel room, I think everyone is assuming they're getting one bed? (or did Paki post that?). If she got a room with two beds, then the mom could sleep with the daughter (with one eye open the whole night) and the BF could have the other bed.

    But I still think it's strange your sister is constantly texting the BF. And even if it's innocent, the BF could totally take it as something more.
    You're probably right about the hotel room being an innocent thing, But it's odd to me that she is so comfortable being in that close of quarters with an unrelated 14 yr old boy. No way in , except maybe some extreme emergency situation, would I ever sleep in the same room with an unrelated teenage boy! It would be uncomfortable even with a girl--I'm just too private like that.

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    You're probably right about the hotel room being an innocent thing, But it's odd to me that she is so comfortable being in that close of quarters with an unrelated 14 yr old boy. No way in , except maybe some extreme emergency situation, would I ever sleep in the same room with an unrelated teenage boy! It would be uncomfortable even with a girl--I'm just too private like that.
    I agree with that--It is strange. I meant to put that in my original post.

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    Hedo Layup Drill ShoogarBear's Avatar
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    I'm going to show this to her
    Oooh, I'm not so sure I would do that.

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    Hedo Layup Drill ShoogarBear's Avatar
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    need pics of your sister paki.
    Fo sho.

    And her digits.

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    Paki-

    I agree with not showing your sister this thread. I would just say to her, that while you know it's completely innocent on her end, the boy may not thik so. He could eventually start reading this totally the wrong way, not to mention his parents (if they're even aware that she's constantly texting him). Just tell her you're looking out for her because in today's day and age, you can't be too careful.

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    Spur-taaaa TDMVPDPOY's Avatar
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    that kid if his lucky, could be milfhunter...

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    I get that they are going to a soccer tournament and the bf is going presumably to watch his gf play. It must be over 2 days so they are staying at a hotel. The boy's parents, I would hope, know her and that she is taking him along for this out of town trip. She can not put the boy in his own hotel room. So, I suppose I understand to an extent that they are all staying in one hotel room, and I would also suppose there are multiple beds in the room. If the parents decide it is OK, then I do not really see where it is the business of anyone else. I remember people who took their kid's bf or gf with them on vacation, but they were older.

    The texting, though, creates for me an inappropriate type of connection between the mom and the daughter's bf because it is interpersonal interaction just between the two of them and without the daughter. That is where I have an issue. Sure, if he calls the house for the daughter and the mom answers the phone, and they converse for a minute to be polite. But personal texting simply between the two crosses the line for me.

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    She can not put the boy in his own hotel room.
    Why not? That's exactly what I'd do. And I wouldn't pay for it. If he wants to come see the daughter play soccer, his parents can pay for a room. Inviting the boy to share a room with them just seems contrived to me, like one of those, "Oh, look, I've dropped my pencil" situations. If the mom isn't hoping to hook up with the boyfriend, then she needs to be aware that that is how it appears to other people. My boys are little, but I would never allow them to sleep over with a grown woman, and I wouldn't be shy about getting in her face adn telling her to keep her milf paws off my boy.

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    Cinnamon Girl mrsmaalox's Avatar
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    Why not? That's exactly what I'd do. And I wouldn't pay for it. If he wants to come see the daughter play soccer, his parents can pay for a room. Inviting the boy to share a room with them just seems contrived to me, like one of those, "Oh, look, I've dropped my pencil" situations. If the mom isn't hoping to hook up with the boyfriend, then she needs to be aware that that is how it appears to other people. My boys are little, but I would never allow them to sleep over with a grown woman, and I wouldn't be shy about getting in her face adn telling her to keep her milf paws off my boy.
    See that's what I thought too. Very contrived. Like how is she going to chaperone when she needs a shower? Leave the door open? "Ooops I dropped the soap"

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    I can live with it JoeChalupa's Avatar
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    She should at least be staying in a suite where she and her daughter can sleep in the bedroom and she can close the door while he sleeps on the sofa bed in the other room. That way there is no spooning going on during the night.

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    3some with the mom and daughter by the age of 14
    hot

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    I surely would not do any of this at all, but I am not these kids' parents. I am not the cool mom, far from it, but I do not think it is my right to tell other parents what they can and can not allow with their own kids. If both sets of parents agree, then that is their choice.

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    Cinnamon Girl mrsmaalox's Avatar
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    She should at least be staying in a suite where she and her daughter can sleep in the bedroom and she can close the door while he sleeps on the sofa bed in the other room. That way there is no spooning going on during the night.
    Exactly. A suite is the minimum she should do. I have 2 sons age 15 and 12, and a 13yr old daughter and since the oldest was around 12 we've only stayed in suites when we travel. Everyone gets some privacy and I feel safer than having 2 rooms. We have a family reunion coming up next weekend and me and my brood won't be staying at the hotel where all the other guests are staying because they don't have suites available.

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    Cinnamon Girl mrsmaalox's Avatar
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    I surely would not do any of this at all, but I am not these kids' parents. I am not the cool mom, far from it, but I do not think it is my right to tell other parents what they can and can not allow with their own kids. If both sets of parents agree, then that is their choice.
    But we're not telling anyone what to do with their kids, we were asked for our opinions and that's all we're doing here, giving opinions.

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    Getting a separate room for the boyfriend would be worse. How is Mom going to keep her daughter out of his room the whole time?

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