pregnancy and wedding

[bugoy]

What trailer park do you live in?

come on, cut the guy some slack

[desflood]

That's like excusing the old racist grandfather for his racism because "he's from a different time". The times of bas children and the stigma of being an unwed mother is gone.

I actually have a friend struggling with both of these problems. She's 28, pregnant and unmarried, although living with her boyfriend - who is black. A close (older) relative of hers refuses to speak to her, for both being pregnant and being with an African-American man. It's very hard on her because this is somebody she always loved very much and still wants to be close to, but it seems their relationship is destroyed by this. I've told her so many times, "You can't live your life for other people. Hopefully (your relative) will come around eventually," but that doesn't do her any good.

[S_A_Longhorn]

Sinner...

[urunobili]

If granny is not putting any money for the wedding or the kid... politely ask her to STFU...

[mrsmaalox]

I actually have a friend struggling with both of these problems. She's 28, pregnant and unmarried, although living with her boyfriend - who is black. A close (older) relative of hers refuses to speak to her, for both being pregnant and being with an African-American man. It's very hard on her because this is somebody she always loved very much and still wants to be close to, but it seems their relationship is destroyed by this. I've told her so many times, "You can't live your life for other people. Hopefully (your relative) will come around eventually," but that doesn't do her any good.

My cousin went thru this. Unmarried, pregnant by a black man----super big deal in the family. But I think it's because it was the first time it occurred in our extended family. Her father didn't speak to her the entire pregnancy. But the instant that baby was born, everything changed. That baby is the heart of her grandpa's life. Landmark for our clan: There was a black man at our table this past Thanksgiving!

[xellos88330]

CONGRATULATIONS!!! My parents are very traditional catholics and hated the fact that my wife and I moved in together before we were married. I didn't care and did it anyway. Her grandmother will get over it.

[sonic21]

So my girlfriend and i were planning on getting married next summer. We found out a few weeks ago she was pregnant.

So we finally told her granmother she was pregnant. Now she insists we have to get married before the birth. She even said she would not come if we're still getting married next year.

I hate people like that, i mean WTF... ruining a moment like that. She's not even a religious person. She's just trying to piss us off.

She's the only person who doesn't like me in her family, i'm hoping it will not create too much drama.

So i guess she was bluffing, she invited us this weekend and apologized for like 1 hour on the phone. She's "proud of us" and is "looking forward to come to the wedding".

[BacktoBasics]

So i guess she was bluffing, she invited us this weekend and apologized for like 1 hour on the phone. She's "proud of us" and is "looking forward to come to the wedding".

Well thanks for wasting everyones time.

[ClintSquint]

That is great news.

[Bigzax]

So i guess she was bluffing, she invited us this weekend and apologized for like 1 hour on the phone. She's "proud of us" and is "looking forward to come to the wedding".

don'tchu be rolling your eyes at grandma mister!

[manufan10]

Whatever you do, do NOT her grandma!!

This was the best advice on here.

[CosmicCowboy]

Why not go ahead and get married? They have some really cute dresses for the brides now...