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Can you honestly say God doesn't exist?
No, he's clearly not "just trying to get laid", because if that's all this was about there'd be no thread. He's conflicted about using her.
Can you honestly say God doesn't exist?
If a person is old enough to vote, go to war, etc., and they agree to consensual safe sex, why even think twice?
I guess I don't understand the problem.
Complete honesty is never the best policy. If you tell her your real intentions she won't put out anymore and she'll dump your ass. Just keep hitting it until you get bored, then break up with her. However don't be a jerk about it, simply let her know that its not working out.
Your over-thinking things and making a lot of pessimistic assumptions. At worst she'll be upset a few days and then find some other dude.
Pussy isn't worth drama. And 19-year-old pussy DEFINITELY isn't worth 19-year-old drama. I know this for a fact from both sides of the situation. She's an adult. If she wants to get laid by a 26-year-old with no strings attached, she will. I did at that age. If she doesn't, however, and thinks that sex is an automatic sign of a relationship or some level of commitment, she'll make your life .
And if you weren't honest with her from the jump, you'll deserve it.
My advice? Be honest. Tactful, of course. And polite. But straightforward. You may think that there's no real connection with her, and with the specific ages involved it's probably for good reason, but you should at least respect her enough to give her the opportunity to make an informed decision about what kind of sexual relationship she wants to deal with. You may end up not getting anything more than last night's head, but it's worth it in the long run. I've made it a specific goal to be completely up front about my intentions with everyone since my last bad breakup (about eight years ago) and it has occasionally kept me from getting laid, but my sex/dating life has been 100% drama free for almost a decade. It's lovely.
I'll never understand the guys (like many giving advice in this thread, just a hunch) who will tell a girl whatever she wants to hear to get laid, and then complain non-stop about how chicks are psychos and/or stalkers. What did you think would happen? We don't like relationship teases any more than you guys like teases.
Let me explain it for you then:
1. balli has a conscience
2. he is not interested in the girl for anything more than sex
3. he thinks the girl is into him (i.e. emotionally interested, looking for an ongoing relationship) and might feel hurt and used if he screws her a few times then ditches her
4. so, his penis is in conflict with his conscience
If you care about the feelings of others and understand that for some people sex is intimately connected to emotion, you worry about things like this. If you are just out for whatever you can get without considering the consequences for the other/s involved, I guess you don't. BTW, that is not an accusation, just a statement about the different ways people behave.
Exactly.
Thanks CF. You just confirmed for me that I am not insane.
how can that be if he evolved from hot liquid billions of years ago like your pappy daddy Darwin said, In order to have feelings means he must have a soul, in order to have a soul, it means there is a God?
stop sitting on the fence.
you can't possibly give advice on human behavior if you claim to evolve from a fish, it's call contradiction.
do they use that word down under?
Didn't Alanis Morissette write Jagged Little Pill when she was nineteen?....
...Go for it dude it'll be the gift that keeps on giving. teehee
This thread is an exemplar of the divide between the way men and women think about sex. CF summed it up pretty much perfectly.
Go away, mouse. I don't care if you believe in God and think the world is 6000yrs old, that is your right, but must you shove it down my throat? It is my right to examine the evidence, think rationally, and conclude that the Universe as observed by science makes a lot more sense than that described by the Bible. Leave me alone.
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she's over 18.
what's the problem?
So your either a webmaster of ST or your a Moderator?
To sit in some chair in a dry Kangaroo smelling country and dictate your supreme powers just because your ass is so sore if Yankee Doodle, stuck a feather in your ass and and called it macaroni , I will never let your Foster drinking no pussy getting ass run me off these boards it's my home i live here your just a visitor you Buddy Holly looking tree hugging !~
All women should read this thread when they turn 15. It will explain to them their first two or three broken hearts.
All the "she's legal so hit it" posts perfectly explains the at ude of many men to sex - feelings aren't even in the equation. Most women would beg to differ!
No, actually, I just asked you to leave me alone rather than stalking me with that Creationist chip on your shoulder. If you hadn't noticed, this thread is about a different topic. Instead, you have to insult me and my country and call me a sexual. Very respectful. You've learned well from that Bible you supposedly base your life on, haven't you?So your either a webmaster of ST or your a Moderator?
To sit in some chair in a dry Kangaroo smelling country and dictate your supreme powers just because your ass is so sore if Yankee Doodle, stuck a feather in your ass and and called it macaroni , I will never let your Foster drinking no pussy getting ass run me off these boards it's my home i live here your just a visitor you Buddy Holly looking tree hugging !~
I don't think men and women thing differently about sex, necessarily. Certainly not universally. In fact, I think that men and women are actually a lot closer in how they think about sex than people assume, which is why I advocate/practice honesty -- in theory, we're both equally capable (or incapable) of knowing and expressing what we are or are not comfortable with.
I think it's more accurate to say that because of the rules we all grow up with, men and women have much different things to consider and, accordingly, have to navigate their sexual worlds differently. Balli's little 19-year-old may be 100% gung ho for a stress free buddy, but it's harder for those of us in possession of a vagina to ask for/suggest such a relationship. It upsets the balance of power and tends to alienate even the guys who think that's what they want. It's easier in many respects to manipulate and play the games guys are expecting in order to avoid su ion.
why the are we assuming this is a mentally handicapped 19 year old?
she just wants to . grow up and her.
if she wants a relationship, then it doesn't matter that she's 19. she could be 45 and the situation is the same.
you'd be a lying dog for getting the pussy and lying to her.
so really, what the is the problem here? i don't get it.
She may just be interested in sex as well. Being 19 in 2010 is a lot more whorish than it used to be. Just tell her you're not looking for anything serious right now and have fun.
That's funny, the thread le is all the female commentary I usually hear where sex is involved.
Why all the drama just answer the questions, defend your daddy Darwin, grow some balls and stop making excuses, admitting defeat is not an admission of being gay relax, don't do it.....No, actually, I just asked you to leave me alone rather than stalking me with that Creationist chip on your shoulder. If you hadn't noticed, this thread is about a different topic. Instead, you have to insult me and my country and call me a sexual. Very respectful. You've learned well from that Bible you supposedly base your life on, haven't you?
I never said I believe in God, I just asked you to prove he isnot real.
is that to much to ask a "scientist"?
Indeed.
Yes, she may just want a (how do you know?), and that's why being honest with her about your intentions (ie. that you don't want anything serious) is the way to go. That way if she just wants to you're both happy, but if she is looking for something deeper and offering sex as bait to get it she can make an informed decision rather than you making it on her behalf.
No-one said he shouldn't sleep with her, the discussion is about whether he should be honest about not being into her and give her the choice to opt out at that point. It comes down to whether all you care about is getting your wet, or whether you actually care about her role in this - is she an object to you, or a person with feelings?
It astounds me that so many guys find this difficult to understand.
Reckoning is on his way to Utah right now to swoop in
damn you blew my cover
tell us more about this BJ
Is my simple request to be left alone not sufficient for you?
You can't prove God exists any more than I can prove it doesn't. So what? What has been proven is that evolution by natural selection has been occuring for millions of years, and that the earth is about 4 billion years old.
I refuse to discuss these things with you because there is no point. You have a closed mind on the matter. You have not studied the cannon of geology or genetics or evolutionary biology. You expect me to regurgitate millions of pages of scientific evidence into an ST thread to prove my point. Instead, I point you to your local library or university. Start reading, talk to some scientists, then go and prove the research of thousands of ecologists and geneticists and geologists wrong. Please. And when you've done that we will talk.
i bet it sucked
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