Well, Judas is an interesting case. He certainly did some bad things that deserved punishment. And I would argue that he did certain things to fulfill OT prophecy and when he was "not in his right mind."
But don't doubt for a minute that Jesus loved him and prayed for his restoration. He most certainly did. And even if, say, he hated Judas (makes no sense, Judas was one of the 12), how does it follow that he, or the church, hates or doesn't care about handicapped kids? Or us?
Sometimes people make choices, horrible choices, and they have to face the music for it, whether it be broken relationships, maybe time in prison, maybe eternal punishment. But that does not negate the love Christ has for each of us. Do I need to provide scripture, or will you take my word for it?